Just tested - not pg so why do I have all the symptoms?

[Flowermum]

Ok I know this sounds totally barking bit stick with me.

DP and I have been TTC for almost six months. Now admittedly I've been so wrecked lately we've laid off a bit.

But I have MOST of the same pg symptoms I had on DD, and have done for the past few weeks. I feel ill in the mornings, am wrecked tired, hungry all the time, doing weightwatchers but finding it difficult to loose weight. But I really didn't think I was pg. I did two tests this morning just to rule it out and of course they were both negative.

So now I'm thinking it's all psychological. My best friend started TTC just after me. Technically I should have more chance of conceiving, I'm younger, DD is older than her DD, she has weight problems (as in she can't stop loosing it) and was BFing for much longer than me. So when she told me a couple of weeks ago that she had just gotten a BFP I was a bit put out. (though totally happy for her, she wanted it sooo much and I love her)

But I had been having these symptoms for a while before her getting her BFP. Still got my AF so didn't feel the need to test. Got my next AF last monday but the colour was brown, not red as expected. And the symptoms got worse so I just decided to test this morning and it was negative.

I suppose I should go to the doc, I feel like utter crap and this is getting heartbreaking now. But I'm afraid she'll just say "you've just had a baby" (she'll be 1 on sat week) or "you're young, give it time" or "you just need to loose weight and get exercise" (I walk miles every day and have lost two dress sizes since DD)and then I'll have to pay 50 euro for the privilige!

I know this is a long one, and a long shot but if anyone can shed any light on this it'd be great. (I have posted about thinking I'm pregnant before, a few months ago, this seems to be a running theme with me but has gotten out of hand now with this bloody symptoms).

just coz the test said neg, doesnt mean ur not preg, sometimes it takes a while to show on the test, it does sound to me like u may actually be pregnant

You'd think that! But I had my AF (or what I think is an AF) last Monday 6th May so if I was I would have thought it would surely show by now?

Perhaps I should have bought a more popular brand name test? Or are they all the same?

Could just be a hormonal imbalance. OR I'm just mental.

Thanks for your reply. When I posted and read it back I realised how stupid this sounds.

Every month I was pg, I was convinced it was 'the' month. both months I was convinced AF was coming, it actually was the month! Best advice is to try not to let it take over.

Thanks FlossaLump. I've been ignoring it for a few weeks now, just not taking any notice. I'm just beginning to get bogged down this week with the tiredness and slightly sore boobage etc. Stupid bodies, who needs em!

I had the same thing when I was pregnant with ds2. I had all the symptoms but was getting negitive tests. In the end the mv took some bloods to confirm the pregnancy. Can your doc not do the same? That would confirm if you are or not for definate. On the other hand I think when you are ttc you are far more aware if you are feeling a bit 'odd' and assume you must be pregnant!! I did exactly the same the months I wasn't pregnant. Basically if you are still concerned that you might be preggers go to the docs. That way at least you'll know one way or the other.

How frustrating for you. The 1st time I was pg, I marched into the chemist in a fury, full to the hilt of PMT, so I thought and bought loads and loads of sanitary towels.
I didn't think it was possible! The 2nd time, the pg tests looked neg. I did mention to my doc that it was taking a long time, and then, BOOM!