Coping with D&V in 10 month old on my own. Please help.

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On Thur morning, Dp received a phone call saying his father had died.

Dd ill with vomiting all that night with high temperature. Carried on all next day. HV said no milk, GP said watered down milk, NHS direct said milk as normal.

Some improvement Saturday, but started weeing blood. Took her to emergency GP who said it was a water infection. Dd seemed to perk up a bit.

However loads of diorreah today, and another vomit after 2 days with no vomiting.

Dp in complete state and staying at his mum's most of time, or crying on me.

Feel like I just can't cope, washing is never ending and am worn out. My own mum died only a year ago and still upset about that. Brother and SIL being big help, but not around today. House is complete tip, amd worried about dd, and am meant to be returning to work after years mat leave on Thurs.

Feel resentful that I am trying to do all this on my own, and then hate myself for being selfish. Can't even get to the bank, as no one around to help me, and dp at his mums.

Feel like running away, and meanwhile what I am supposed to feed dd on. She has had some solids but have been trying to avoid dairy, but has little appetite. Am I supposed to give her milk or what? Have given her both watered down and normal bottles which she kept down, until sudden vomit about 3 hours after her lunch( which had no dairy in). The only positive thing is her temperature has gone down. Am crying in desperation as I type this.

She will drink water, but seems to just shit it straight out.... (or squit it should I say)

you poor thing - what a horrible stressful time you are having.
I would offer your DD diluted milk or water for another 24 hours. Can you get some diorylite - offer that little and often. If your DD seems hungry tomorrow then offer some dry toast and bland food ....
When your DD sleeps you go to sleep - you sound so worn out ...
Have you got a friendly neighbour, anyone that can give you a hand for even half an hour

my advice would be the same as taylormama

Just wanted to come and say hi - don't worry about the housework and don't feel at all guilty for how you feel

Is there someone who could give you a break? Or even someone you could go and visit for an hour - it'll help kill the time

Good luck darling - hope all better soon
XXX

will they give her diarrolyte? (sp?)
I remember ds being given this.

Do you have a drier? If so bang everyting in washer and drier, don't iron anything, just put it away as it is. Next time little one is asleep do pots (no drying them tho) and worktops and leve the housework at that.

I really feel for you, and poor dp. Go easy on yourselves. Also ring your work first thing in morning and explain you will have to push start date back. They will understand and if they don't tough!

Can brother and sil offer some practical help for an hour? often people don't know what you need and want to be there for you so ask (and be specific) about what you need.

kay x

I really don't mean to sound uncaring but I think you just have to get on with it. You don't have any choice.

Your dp's father has just died so obviously he has to be there.

If you are worried about your dd, phone the out of hours GP or take her to A & E.

Forget about housework etc. Just concentrate on getting your dd better.

I have spent years on my own with my dc and you just get used to it. Hopefully your dp will be back soon, but in the mean time you will just have to keep going - as we all have to.

Dd too ill to take out, and too clingy, and it is absolutely sheeting it down.

She has taken quite a bit of food yesterday, but today not as good and then the vomiting started again. Will not take diorylite, she refused to drink it.

She seems perkier now, but have resorted to CBeebies to keep her quite, as am sick of low level grizzling.

Me and ds currently living on takeaways as have no time to cook, and cannot afford this. I am totally sick of everything

cbeebies - good
takeaways - good

Don't berate yourself for getting down. It will get better

XX

I have also been a single parent for yonks in the past and TBH never got "used" to it, I know all about getting on with it, but it still makes this situation completely crap

cbeebies is good - the low level grizzling is bloody knackering. If she is perking up then that is a good sign

stressteddy speaks sense!

Big hugs to you, it's a really tough time.

DS is 11 months and had a few nasty tummy bugs. The last one I had my strategy refined to:

1. half strength milk, small amounts (max 120ml) offered every few hours. Keep to this for 24 hours until vomitting has stopped.

1. Put a towel over the sheet and a folded muslin over their front. If you hear them being sick you can strip the cot quick enough to save having to wash the sheets, and sometimes their pjs too.

1. After 24 hours of no vomiting go with the BRAT diet. Bananas, Rice, Apples and Toast. This really works. And then take it very slowly as you go back to normal food and full strength milk.

1. Don't use vests that popper at the crotch - they push the poo to make the nappies leak! More washing. Nappy only or nappy and trousers!

I really hope it passes soon. The timing is really awful for you.