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PMT - how do you feel/behave when you have it?

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TuTu · 13/05/2007 14:36

Since having children I have got PMT, but it usually amounted to 2 to 3 days of being irritable and ratty about 10 days before my period was due, and then disappeared. The last couple of months it seems to have dragged on for 7-10 days, and I have been a totally unbearable to be with - mad angry at DH for the tiniest things, tearful, paranoid, down, and just totally feeling like I've lost my normal self. Just wanting to hear other peoples experiences.

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WideWebWitch · 13/05/2007 14:37

I'm a bitch from hell and my dh knows it and tip toes around me for about 3 days a month.

Josie3 · 13/05/2007 14:38

Mine is awful too. try high doses of primrose oil, magnesium supplements and agnus castus drops - i've found these the most effective.

flightattendant · 13/05/2007 14:40

I'm an awful cow as well, usually a few days before as far as I can tell. When i think about it, it's having that heavy pressure/crampy feeling that makes me so irritable, like everything hurts to do.
Sorry not to be more help but I do sympathise.
{{{{{}}}}}
Think it got worse after DS as well...everyone told me I'd have an easier cycle, ha..ha..ha!

charliecat · 13/05/2007 14:42

My jaw clenches together and I can barely speak for about 3 days. I could KILL dp for breathing, honestly.
Them it goes and I feel like a fairy on a cloud for a day or two after.

electra · 13/05/2007 14:42

I have the urge to eat loads of chocolate.

Wotzsaname · 13/05/2007 14:43

I have always had PMT and I have tried various things to help over the years.

The only way I know how to manage my anger, depression, tiredness for 7 days prior, is to acknowledge that it is PMT.

I also let my DH know my cycle so he can help me, help myself and he will do extra things to help look after the dcs around this time.

I will watch this thread to see if any advice given.

FWIW I also end up driving like a complete learner for 3 days and never plan to go on a long journey around that time.

FrayedKnot · 13/05/2007 14:45

Everything that anyone does seems totally, utterly unreasonable / stupid / crass / annoying / noisy / pointless / ridiculous etc

I look uglier and fatter than usual and clothes which I normally think flatter me suddenly make me look like the Incredible Hulk

I get into completely stupid flaps about things that really don;t matter but at the time seem a matter of life & death but no-one understnads

I get the red mist

I have hot flushes at the slightest hint of stress

God it's awful, it does vary from month to month though, this month was not too bad on teh emotional front but felt like i was about to explode heatwise

roll on the menopause...

colditz · 13/05/2007 14:47

Everyone does it one purpose.

colditz · 13/05/2007 14:48

on purpose

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TuTu · 13/05/2007 14:48

I feel so sorry for DH as he bears the brunt of it all, and it is really getting to him this time. He keeps asking whats wrong, and it just seems such a lame excuse to keep saying PMT. I think he would just love to shake me out of it, but I just seem to plunge into this pathetic state which I cant get out of for days. I do worry that it is putting a big strain on our relationship.

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Wotzsaname · 13/05/2007 15:03

TuTu, tell him to get used to it.... , if he doesn't like it tell him to leave you alone for a while.

I wish I had some magic to sprinkle your way (and his)...

Men get hormonal too...we have to put up with alot!

I have tried primrose oil and magnesium supplements, without much success. I now go on mn and whine alot!

talcygoneorange · 13/05/2007 15:06

Wotzasname....good point
My dh says life is much easier when i just admit to being a hell bitch.

Chocolate helps
Sleep helps

And having spent the last 3 years screaming for help,
have now given in and gone back on prozac.

divastrop · 13/05/2007 15:11

i started getting it really bad after having ds2(my 3rd child)it would start with feeling really paranoid around ovulation,then i would get depressed,then about 7 days before af was due i would put on about 7lb in weight,get loads of spots,my hair would go frizzy and i would sit there thinking about killing people,and if anybody say,queue jumped or something,i would rant at them about itthe paranoia would carry on through this,with me thinking that everone hated me etc.oh and my boobs hurt!

then as soon as af arrived i would be totally fine and rational,pee for britain and loose the weight i'd put on.

i havent had a period since having dd3 yet,but im not looking forward to it.i tried evening primrose,vitamin b6,st johns wort,a homeopathic rememdy-nothing worked.

colditz-

jellyjelly · 13/05/2007 18:58

I have found that when i eat a huge amount of crap then my pmt is awful and i am snappy and my tone of vioce changes. I am no saint in my lifestyle but if i drink just before my period i quite often cry. I often know that if i cry its because the beast will be rearing her head soon.

Otherwisw i get really bad choclate cravings and i will eat anything i can find.

DimpledThighs · 13/05/2007 19:11

4-5 days of being irritable, snappy, depressed and hungry.

pelvicflawed · 13/05/2007 19:54

About a week before get very snappy/irritable/depressed - things just seem to get on top of me. poor DH gets the worst of it. About a day before my period I get an energy rush and can be superwoman (sadly only for a day before being knackered). Take high dose of EPO - dread to think what I would be without it. One strange thing - before DS was born I used to get really painful breasts (took EPO then) now they are fine - can't notice a difference. Hate PMT - have thought about going on the pill to stop it - but don't want to for other reasons. Sometimes when its bad I feel like I can't cope at all

lizziemun · 13/05/2007 20:18

I have to say i have alway had PMT, but it more towards myself then DH. I just can't bear to be with myself i really get on my own nerves. DH just does things with DD or hides in if office all evening just coming out to make me cups of teas.

I have to say i was much worse when i was on the pill, dh throw the last lot away as i woke up in the night and if dh had spoken to me iwould have attacked him. I went and sleep in the spare room and spoke to him in the morning and we decided that it was better if i didn't take anything else.

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TuTu · 14/05/2007 22:29

thanks for the replies. I have become human again today, and it is just this huge relief to get back to normal. Was really starting to worry as dragged on for such a long time and did at times feel totally unable to cope. will definitely go and buy some evening primrose oil and pray it helps me through next month

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fakeblonde · 14/05/2007 23:28

I had pmt for years.
Anxious,paranoid,tearful and irrational,weight gain about 6 lbs, and it started about 2 weeks before .
As soon a period started i felt this huge elation and would pee all my weight off and be sooo happy.
I know it hasn`t worked for everyone but for me the mirena coil has 100 % stopped it for me.
Tried everything over the years and hated the thought of going on the pill or taking pills, so this was a good compromise.
I think the mirens releases about the equivalent of 2-3 mini pills a weeks and my gp said it was great for pmt.
There are things i dont like about the mirena, but i no longer have PMT !

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