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Dh tired all the time

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MsAwesomeDragon · 09/04/2018 22:07

Recently, in the past month or so, dh has started to be much more tired than normal.

He is going to bed at around 9pm rather than the 11/12 pm he used to go to bed, and is finding it more difficult to get up in the mornings.

Now, I am aware that I snore, and he's a light sleeper. But I've snored for years, trying various things to help, none of which have stopped it completely, and he's never been this tired before.

I thought about stress or depression, but he doesn't have anything to be particularly stressed about, and doesn't seem depressed in any way other than sleeping more than usual. His diet hasn't changed. He hasn't knowingly been in contact with anyone with a contagious illness.

Any ideas about what might be causing the extra tiredness? He is reluctant to go to the doctor, as he's " just tired", but if he could pinpoint some lifestyle change that would help he would follow that advice (as long as it doesn't involve too much change)

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Aquamarine1029 · 09/04/2018 22:26

Unexplained tiredness can be one of the first signs of heart disease and it is often ignored. I think you should insist he see the gp, and while he's there they can check his blood levels for deficiencies, testosterone levels, thyroid function, etc.

Baffledbylife123 · 09/04/2018 22:28

Make sure that he has his vitamin D checked. It’s ridiculous how much a low level can affect energy levels!

Spudina · 09/04/2018 22:32

It could be lots of things. He really needs to see a Dr. Thyroid disfunction and a problem with his blood (I.e anaemia) spring to mind, and a cardiac issue as above. A few simple blood tests would rule a lot of things out.

longtompot · 09/04/2018 23:00

I second him seeing his GP. My dh was tired for years (would fall asleep early evenings, after food) and did go but he was also having a rubbish sleep schedule so it was blamed on that. Then just over a year ago he started having angina attacks and the angio showed how blocked his arteries were (94%) and he now has stents and takes loads of pills.
The fact your dh is getting lots of sleep they should look at other causes.

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MsAwesomeDragon · 09/04/2018 23:56

Thanks all. I think he should see a doctor too, but he's ridiculously stubborn about it. He had health issues as a child/teenager so hates "bothering" doctors when it's not as bad as when he was young.

His dad has had heart attacks, so those of you saying cardiac issues are worrying me sufficiently that I shall insist on a GP visit.

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SluttyButty · 10/04/2018 11:51

Mine was ridiculously stubborn and stupidly proud of never seeing a doctor. Until he was found to have extremely high blood pressure. He was sent straight to the Gp and ended up with a cardiology referral and so far has had two procedures and is on a fair bit of medication.

He too had put his tiredness down to my snoring and stress from his job. It wasn't and if it hadn't been found when it was (he'd been like it for a couple of years) he could've had a stroke.

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MsAwesomeDragon · 10/04/2018 12:37

Well, purely coincidentally, he got a letter today from the doctors inviting him to a well man clinic, for men of his age. So that reminded him that he's not a young man any more and is in fact 50, the age his dad was when he had his first heart attack. So he rang to make an appointment, is having blood taken this afternoon and a follow up appt with the GP in a few days.

I'm not sure if he would have made the appt without that well man invitation, but it doesn't really matter as he is in fact going to see someone. He doesn't like to bother doctors off his own bat, but he will take them up on invitations because too do otherwise would be daft apparently.

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KarmaStar · 10/04/2018 12:43

Yes get him to see his g.p,it could be something minor or more worrying and ignoring it is not going to make it go away,a relative had this exhaustion and was diagnosed with diabetes.
Hopefully it is a simple matter OP,it's just getting him there...

longtompot · 11/04/2018 09:26

That was good timing. Hopefully he will be honest during the clinic.

Peonyflower37 · 11/04/2018 09:29

Lack of iron, vitamin d, vitamin b12?

He should go to the doctor and get some blood tests done.

MrsEricBana · 11/04/2018 19:15

My dh had this - dragging exhaustion, weight loss etc. GP quickly identified very over active thyroid and he was treated successfully. With hindsight we saw he was getting worse over 9 months or so but we just thought work stress. Please do get him to see GP as being wiped out at 9pm is unusual.

BuffyBee · 11/04/2018 19:33

Any out of character, sudden tiredness is a sign that something is amiss.
After the Well Man Clinic, if all seems well but he continues with this unusual tiredness, make him go to the doctor to get to the bottom of it.
Insist on it.

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MsAwesomeDragon · 11/04/2018 19:50

Thanks all. I don't know how honest he was with the well man clinic, but they've taken bloods as that's routine. They'll let him know the results within a few days apparently.

He thinks he's just tired and run down because I've been snoring, and stress from work. I think this is unusual, and the snoring hasn't been any worse than normal (although I have now bought every stop snoring device ever invented, so I'll look amazing in bed wearing all of it ). I'll try to insist on going back to the doctor if nothing shows up on the bloods, but he's a very stubborn man.

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applesandpears56 · 11/04/2018 20:34

What caused his dad’s heart attack at 50? That’s very young. I’d want to know if it was anything that could be genetic.

applesandpears56 · 11/04/2018 20:35

I know what it’s like trying to get an oh to the drs. Mine wouldn’t go when he had pneumonia! You can’t force him and as you say you don’t know if he’ll down play things.

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MsAwesomeDragon · 11/04/2018 21:09

I don't actually know what caused his dad's heart attack at 50. We don't really speak to his dad. But I know his granddad died of a great attach in his 50s and his great granddad died young too. So I think there is a genetic component, and it terrifies me. Dh just seems to accept that he'll die before he ever gets to retire (even though his dad's still alive and well in his 70s).

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MsAwesomeDragon · 11/04/2018 21:10

Great attach was supposed to be heart attack.

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applesandpears56 · 11/04/2018 21:43

I def think you should do some digging. It’ll be on the autopsy?
There’s loads of different types of genetic problems and without knowing what you’ll not be able to help

applesandpears56 · 11/04/2018 21:45

Oh sorry you said his dad recovered and is ok...
I think you need to ask him

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MsAwesomeDragon · 11/04/2018 21:58

Asking him would be difficult. We've not seen him since our wedding 3 years ago, and that was the first time I'd met him (we'd been together 10 years and had a 6yo together). I'll talk to mil next time we see her, they were divorced by the time he had his heart attacks but she may well know more than me.

I'm trying my best to get dh to take this seriously, but I need to come at it gently or he digs his heels in

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