anxiety level very high - any ideas!

[carocaro]

am sitting here panicing about everything; DH got made redundant 2 weeks ago, bless him, he has had two interviews already and is going all out to get another job, we are just about to buy the house we have rented for two years but there is a last min hitch about the plans and the owner is being an pain in the butt, we just want to get it all done before the mort co finds out about the redundancy; DS1 aged 5 had an eye test today and he has to go back to have an eye test with drops, basically his site is good, with one eye stronger than the other but they want to be doubly sure; DS2 aged 3 months has a flat and won't look right and I try to sort out physio for him but can't get hold of anyone; my Mum broke her wrist today slipping on a wet floor and has to have an operation in the morning; we are waiting for a letter in the post about the final deicison on our leasehold flat we sold a year ago, long story with idiot freeholder and lengthy stupid battle to see if we have to pay costs; my baby is gorgeous but just wants to held or on the move all the time, I'm pooped, at lastly I feel premenstrual (due on Sat) and fat and 3 stone overweight, the least of the issues really as have just started WW. I just feel like the walls are closing in and everything is beyond my control and I just have to sit it all out and be patient, but I am finding it so darn hard not to let my mind go into overdrive and head off in the 'what if this that and the other happens' and work myself into frenzy, plus the frigginn builders next door are idiots and play the radio too loud despite being asked so many time to turn it down and the banging on the roof tiles is going on and on, I have to escape all day long for some peace. Feel better now I have got it out of me, I just would like things to be sorted and everyone to be OK, like we all do and I know life has it's up's and down's but I feel like ENOUGH NOW! If you got this far well done, sorry to waffle on, but there you go.

ouch
sounds like a bad day/week/month
hope it all goes better from here on in

Hi Caro,

Gosh, you do sound like you have a lot on your plate right now, I hope you're not feeling alone.

You've done something good though, writing down everything that's worrying you is great for when your thoughts are whirling around, as it can help you prioritise them and put them in perspective. It's too easy to think you have twenty problems, when really only one or two are biggies, and the rest are just, well...
life!

It's great that your husband is going all out to find another job, and the interviews could come back with a positive result, but of course it's going to be a worrying time for you. Make sure he applies for any benefits he's entitled to in the meantime however, as (and I speak from experience) you can miss out on a lot of money by just holding on for another two or three weeks in the hopes of hearing back from interviews etc

Your poor Mum! Is she elderly? Most operations for this kind of thing are fairly straightforward though. She will be alright, and she's very lucky to have you worrying about her.

As for your children, you sound like a dedicated mother who is doing her very best to keep everything together, can't blame your ds2 for wanting to be held all the time! Perhaps you could try using some kind of sling to give him the closeness he wants while letting you get on with things?

The builders next door would drive me up the wall (I have no patience with that kind of thing) you're probably doing the right thing by getting out for a bit instead of sitting there being frustrated! You have my sympathies on that one!

As for being premenstrual, well it can make you feel like utter shit can't it? And problems are magnified. I'm crap when I'm due on, a snotty irrational mess! You will feel better in a day or two at least. And as for feeling fat and three stone overweight, try to keep in mind that you had your baby a mere three months ago! Cut yourself some slack, your body has been through a lot, and it's still recovering. I know magazines at the moment put loads of emphasis of losing all your baby weight in 6 weeks, but it's an unhealthy attitude to have.

You really need to be kind to yourself, you can't fix everything at once. Just concentrate on your beautiful baby, and stay positive about the rest. Soon you'll be looking back on it all and thinking "God, that was a crap time, but then dh found that job/things got easier with ds2/we got the house etc"

Best of luck, anyway. Sorry I've waffled but I wanted you to know your post hadn't been ignored. Got my fingers crossed for you that things will start looking up soon.