Did anyone or does anyone have a great relationship with their dad?

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I was doing some diy yesterday and was listening to music. Dance with my Father by Luther Van Dross came on - I love that song. However, it made me cry because I never ever had that relationship with my own father. He was an alcoholic and whilst not abusive he just didn't seem to give a damn. When I got to thinking about it none of my close friends ever had a great relationship with their dad - a couple were drinkers, one of my friends was abused by her father and the rest just weren't close. Anyone have a fantastic relationship with their dad?

My dad is the most generous and kind person but very quiet. He's hard to have a conversation with. I always found it uncomfortable and have gone the other way with DH who is loud and extravert which I much prefer.

I do! He went full-mode as soon as I was diagnosed with disability. Extremely diligent with my rehab throughout childhood even when he was insanely busy with work, always there for me as a kid, done cheerlading, giving me push when needed. Inspiring, brought books out and told me histories of everything. One to turn to when I had problems at school. It was to his credit that I graduated from top university.

He's a busy academic travelling the world, but when he visits we have a blast and my kids love him.

Absolutely adored my dad. He was moody and opinionated but also generous, brilliant with kids and lots of fun. He had strong political and moral views which moulded my beliefs and helped make me the person I am today. We argued a lot but they were 'constructive' arguments for the most part, almost a debate where I could safely practise forming my opinions and he'd often play devil's advocate. Also a few unreasonable rows where we both knew we were right!

He died after 10 years of illness which meant he pretty much missed out on being a grandad to my children, which is a huge regret for me. My mum was lovely, but gentle and fairly placid. I loved her but my relationship with my dad was something special.

It's nearly a year since I lost my Dad. We had a mixed relationship. He could be very cruel yet in some ways we really connected, and I know he was proud of me for some of my achievements. Have been thinking about him today and how he didn't have a good death. I wouldn't have wished that on him.