I'm a mum of 2 in my 40s and married.
I have always had what I call wonky hormones, causing chronic headaches since I was in my teens and heavy, irregular periods.
At the time, the GP just gave me strong painkillers which left me a bit 'out of it' one day at work. Apparently he'd given me a much higher dose than he should have done according to another GP, anyway I stopped taking them and 'learned to live with the headaches'.
I have almost always had a non-existent libido too.
Whilst pregnant, both times, my headaches went, it was bliss, as was my libido, which returned with gusto both times - hooray!
Alas, once the babies arrived, my headaches came back and my libido left never to be seen again. Clearly all hormone related.
Every time I've seen GPs about this, they've admitted there's not really much they can do regarding the headaches and that I really should go to counselling to see what's causing the lack of sex drive. I don't need to go to counselling, I know it's hormone related so I don't see how that will help. I love my husband very much, so that's really not the problem!
However I became a bit more persistent and finally saw a GP who prescribed Cerazette, which not only has stopped my painful periods completely but has made a significant difference to my headaches, more evidence that it's related to my hormones.
I also saw a different GP who has been the only one in 25 years that's offered to do a blood test to check my hormone levels. Surprisingly my testosterone levels were zero, or at least not detectable. He said that it's the most likely reason for my lack of libido but that testosterone treatment is not available on the NHS for women and that I'd have to go and see a private Endocrinologist. I'm now nearly £350 down after seeing a Private Dr twice and being prescribed testosterone gel to use every day. I'm yet to grow a beard but alas, also yet to get my libido back.
I'm desperately hoping someone here may have been through something similar or know someone who could help. I can live with the headaches but I just want a normal relationship with my lovely husband who is being very patient!