I have 8 yr old twin daughters. One of my daughters developed a spider melanoma under her eye approx 4 yrs ago. Although they are not identical twins, they are very alike and people started to differentiate between them by saying "Twin 1 is the one with the spot under her eye." Over the years she has become very conscious of this and doesn't like it. She often asks me to put concealer on it.
A few months ago she developed another spot thing on the side of her nose, but this was a raised one. We saw our GP who decided to freeze it. She tried to freeze the spider melanoma aswell - two attempts at this. But it didn't work so the GP referred us to local hospital dermatologist.
We went for our appointment today. When we entered her office she directed all questions to my DD. That is fine, but DD suffers from extreme shyness - has even been described as selective muteism by deputy head at school. So I tried to help my DD by prompting a response from her. When consultant asked DD what she thought of the spot, she just shrugged her shoulders! When consultant asked her what it felt like she said "I hardly know it's there."
Consultant looked at me and said that they would only do it if it was proven that child suffers psychologically because of it. They would not do it if they felt it was the mother that wanted something done! She said DD could have it done privately later in life if she so decided.
I felt so small!!! My DD was the one that wanted the spot to go. When we left the office I told DD that that was it, we didn't have to come back because she wouldn't be having anything done, she was upset. When I asked her why she hadn't spoken up about it in the office, she said that she does hardly know it's there until others start pointing it out or touching it and she doesn't like it.
Excasperated and slightly miffed!!!
I know she can have it done privately later if she decides to. But I didn't take her there for my sake!!!