really painful smear

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I've had regular smears the last few years as I've had abnormal cells for a while. And all have been done by the same woman, with minimal bleeding or pain. It's now back to normal.

I saw a man yesterday for the first time. And Fck did it hurt. 3 big scrapes I could feel. Bleeding and pain afterwards, I woke up in the middle of the night with pain and now have a swollen belly with brown blood and internal pain the morning after.

I'm so angry and really don't want this procedure again. Certainly not by a man. I've had a biopsy before now and the pain hasn't extended to the following day.

Why is it ok for men to do this? I was clear that I was nervous with him. I'm really angry that I've allowed this to happen and I'm now worried I've done damage to my cervix the pain is that bad. I'm going to refuse a man ever doing this in the future but given my extreme anxiety over the test I don't know if I can have another one after this experience. The pain is such a grim pain. Any advice?

I do think either gender can do a crap job or this or a good job but you should have had the option to have a women instead as you being stressed wouldn't help. Is it worth calling to see a female gp just to get checked out?

I'm sorry to hear of your experience Sarah. And good for you for complaining.

No, I wasn't asked. I was just so shocked to see a man, it was in the hospital. Unfortunately he may well have been a consultant. I immediately thought 'I don't want a man doing this' but his manner was fine and because I've had no pain from the procedure for a while I didn't think to stress please be careful even though I'd said I was anxious. I also thought if I refuse this or demand a woman, then I could have to re-arrange work/childcare again. And I'd mentally built myself up for this yesterday. I just don't understand why men do this, although I had a painful one about 20 years ago and that was a female nurse.

But the pain is immense. I'm so sick of being female. Even though I've had good experiences unless you know the person you don't know if they're going to scrape hard numerous times or not. I don't want to do this again.

Did you have a woman in with you? The first smear I had that didn't make me cry was a huge man but he was adamant that a female nurse came in and held my hand to prove he wasn't abusing me I assume

I don't have any advice but just want to say I hope your pain eases off soon.

The guidelines say pencil pressure. Some people can be very hard on their pencils