My boyfriend has given me chlamydia

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We both got tested at the start of our relationship and both clear of everything.

I had to have another test recently as its protocol if you're pregnant and under 25 in the U.K. Got a call saying I've got chlamydia. I had suspicions in the past he'd cheated but this confirms it.

At first he was all apologies and guilt but now he's turned it round and said he thinks I'm the one that's been cheating. I've literally never cheated. I'd admit on here in confidentiality if I had. He says he reckons he doesn't even have it but he's the only person I could of caught it off.

And the thing is a couple of months ago he had to take antibiotics whilst he had pneumonia so what if his has cleared up with that?

Just feel awful. I wouldn't ever cheat on him. There's nobody else i could of caught it off. Advice please

Well you know that he has cheated. I'm not entirely sure what you are asking.

Well, you know you haven't cheated. You know you both had the all clear to start with so it's pretty obvious isn't it?
Don't let him play mind games!

Well you know he’s cheated because his initial reaction was guilt and apologies. Once he had time to think he started back tracking.

I’m sorry!

The first thing is to get treatment as you can pass it on to the baby.

Second thing is to decide if you are going to be used that way. For me he would be shown the door.

I would assume he's either cheated or lied about being tested at the start of the relationship.

He says he doesn't have it but has he been tested? He might not have symptoms but still be carrying the bacteria - that's why it's so easy to spread. He needs to be tested and treated now, and tell him if he has been cheating, to tell the other person to get treated too.

Did you get tested together? Wondering if he didn't because he didn't have symptoms. Or if he had treatment, keeping it from you, but didn't finish the course properly so didn't totally get rid of the bacteria. The guilt might not be because he cheated but because he wasn't truthful early on.

Hope you and your baby get the treatment you need too.

Ohhh what a super dick.

Is there anyway that he could have had it but it didn't show up in that first test? Any nurses here?

Sorry my post makes no sense I'm pretty much beside myself.

I'm getting antibiotics tomorrow so don't worry.

Is there a way the antibiotics from his illness could of cleared up his chlamydia because I dread to think of that happening and I'd have no leg to stand on but honestly the only person I could of got it from is him

Why do you need "a leg to stand on"? You know.

So now, do you want to be with someone you know has cheated on you, put you at risk (he didn't likely use protection), then lies AND blames you?

If the whole world thinks you cheated on him, who cares? You don't have to stay with a scumbag because you're pregnant.

After this episode, if you remain together if you ever have suspicions again, what are you going to do? Ask him? Believe his answer? Wait until you get another STD? If he promises it was a one off, will never happen again (if he admits it!), then what? You believe him and hope he's not lying?

I'm not suggesting it's easy, but you know the truth, now what are you going to do?

If the only person you could have got it from is him, you need to leave his arse? Not be worried he might blame you. You KNOW you haven’t cheated, so he must of. End of story really.

azithromycin for pneumonia is also used for chlamydia. do you know what antibiotics he was given?

You mean your ex boyfriend who cheated on you, surely? Get rid of him.

Just to make you aware OP there was a thread on here last year from someone who had a positive test for chlamydia and was adamant her partner hadn't cheated. When sge questioned the test and then subsequently had a retest it came back negative.

If you think he has cheated then he might have. Only you know but I seem to remember some medical person saying it was a possibility.