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who thinks this is normal?

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cheeryface · 18/04/2007 12:07

for a mum to be really apprehensive about child becoming ill

which means:

too worried to book a holiday abroad, in case ill and no english doctor etc

feel jittery and apprehensive to leave child with grandparents..just in case

take child to doctor when ill but then worry that either the doctor has got it wrong or it will develop into something serious. and then not sleep all night.

feel a sinking feeling when dh announces he is going out drinking, as, won't be able to drive car or give his input should child become ill. and then worry about it until said night out has been and gone.

touch forehead of sleeping child every night to check for fever. child is 8 year old.

walk down the street and notice someone look at you and legs turn jelly almost making it feel like your walking funny.

blush like a beetroot when talking to the teacher, the doctor, anyone not completely familiar with.

to want to learn to drive, take dancing lessons, go to college but never take the plunge because of self doubt.

to have sudden flashes of dh or family in car crashes. usually if heard something about traffic or whatever on radio.

to still have a baby monitor.

to have never let child eat nuts as allergic to dogs and grass really badly so don't wanna chance it.

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HuwEdwards · 18/04/2007 12:08

This sounds very over the top to me.

amyjade · 18/04/2007 12:09

I do all these things. With good reason though.

too worried to book a holiday abroad, in case ill and no english doctor etc

feel jittery and apprehensive to leave child with grandparents..just in case

take child to doctor when ill but then worry that either the doctor has got it wrong or it will develop into something serious. and then not sleep all night.

feel a sinking feeling when dh announces he is going out drinking, as, won't be able to drive car or give his input should child become ill. and then worry about it until said night out has been and gone.

touch forehead of sleeping child every night to check for fever. child is 8 year old.

cheeryface · 18/04/2007 12:20

and to have no libido for 10 years,
do some people just not..er..like it?

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lulumama · 18/04/2007 12:23

i would say this mum needs some help with this anxiety disorder and self esteem issues that are stopping her living a happy and normal loving family life

3littlefrogs · 18/04/2007 12:34

But Amyjade - in your circumstances this is understandable - you need help and support, counselling for as long as it takes to get this level of anxiety under some sort of control. My heart goes out to you - it really does.

cheeryface · 18/04/2007 13:08

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WigWamBam · 18/04/2007 13:13

All of those points together would suggest someone with some kind of anxiety disorder, who would benefit from getting help.

It's very sad for the person who is doing this, but it's also potentially harmful to the child may find it hard to grow into a happy and confident member of society because of the way they are being smothered by their parent.

3littlefrogs · 18/04/2007 13:24

Cheeryface - what has happened to you to make you feel like this? Can you talk to anyone - maybe your GP? Your chioce of name makes me feel as if you present a cheerful face to the world, but inside you are really sad. Wish i could say something helpful.

cheeryface · 18/04/2007 13:49

i think you are right 3littlefrogs. although sometimes i am better than others. i also have terrible pmt for 2 weeks each month and thats when it affects me most.

no one really knows and some would be very surprised.

i don't know what happened to me, just wasn't made to be a mother i think. probably started when i had my first at 19, i was much too young.

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3littlefrogs · 18/04/2007 13:53

Counselling can really help - available through your GP, together with referral to gynaecologist for hormone investigation and treatment. I have had both, and it was really worthwhile. HTH

WigWamBam · 18/04/2007 13:56

Would agree that counselling could help. Please see your GP, because that's no way to live.

You might find that he offers anti-depressants as well, because some of them are really good for anxiety disorders, but do hold out for counselling as well.

jalopy · 18/04/2007 14:25

I think Lulumama is right. You've developed an anxiety disorder. I think it can be managed with counselling or therapy. Ask your GP.

cheeryface · 18/04/2007 15:04

i have read and tried to apply ever positive thinking/self help method books i can find but the thoughts are just beyond mt control it seems.

would therapy help cure the no sex drive problem as that is causing me relationship issues as you can imagine.

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3littlefrogs · 18/04/2007 16:32

No sex drive is a symptom of depression - so GP can probably help. Depression and PMT can be caused by hormone imbalance so it is worth talking to GP as it could all be connected.

3littlefrogs · 18/04/2007 17:51

BTW cheeryface - I thought amyjade was the op - I didn't mean to ignore you - I was just sneaking a quick peek at MN while at work, and didn't read carefully. Sorry.

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