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Wife bleeding after sex

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shyguy83 · 29/09/2017 22:23

Hi everyone, first time poster.

So basically my wife (30 years old) has bled a little after sex probably the last three times we've done it, over the space of a couple of months.

The first time it was a case that the condom had blood on it after I withdrew, then the last couple of times it's been a case that she's noticed some light bleeding after going to the toilet afterwards. Not sure if it's relevant but the last time was 24 hours after we had sex (she did a normal pee in the morning with no issue) and the morning after that there was a little bit of brown discharge which she usually gets when her period comes on. Period isn't due for another 7/10 days and she hasn't had any of the other symptoms she gets when it's on its way.

We've done the whole scaring ourselves to death by Googling it, but she's got an appointment booked at the clinic in a months time. She doesn't seem to be too worried now and she's getting on with it, but I'm barely able to think about anything else and I'm worried sick.

Any reassurance you can give, or similar experiences? Appreciate some may not feel so comfortable giving me the gory details which is absolutely fine, just looking for some reassurance to set my mind at rest I guess.

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gamerchick · 29/09/2017 22:27

Is she up to date with smears?

SerendipityFelix · 29/09/2017 22:30

It's not uncommon, can be caused by cervical erosion, which is harmless and can be associated with long term use of hormonal contraceptives. Can be confirmed at colposcopy. I went through this, convinced myself it was cervical cancer, and it was all fine, I'd worried for nothing.

GinAndSonic · 29/09/2017 22:30

She should see the GP and tell them what's been happening. It could be something as harmless as a cervical ectropion (I have one that used to bleed quite often). Of course if it's something to worry about, she will be then given any treatment that is needed. Is there a reason she's waiting a month? A GP appointment might be quicker.

Redsippycup · 29/09/2017 22:32

Has she given birth? If yes, how long ago? My DD is nearly 1 year old and I still haven't healed fully. I've no idea how long it will take but it doesn't seem to be improving. Could it possibly be childbirth related?

I'm sure she is fine but it's definitely best to get it checked out.

SerendipityFelix · 29/09/2017 22:34

Just to add I saw my GP and she referred me to colposcopy clinic within 2 weeks.

Cyclewidow46 · 29/09/2017 22:39

She could have a polyp on her cervix. These commonly cause bleeding/ spotting after sex.

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shyguy83 · 29/09/2017 22:40

Thanks guys, she's probably due a smear in the next year or so. She hasn't given birth and she was on the pill until about 2 years ago - it caused her VERY irregular periods and it'd be maybe 1 week in six that she wasn't getting constant discharge, hence why we now use condoms.

She specifically wants to go to the clinic and she feels more comfortable with the female practitioners there, and the next appointment available is a month away! May be worth investigating the GP option too.

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TwatteryFlowers · 29/09/2017 22:42

I bled after sex. I ignored it for several months but it got heavier and more often so I mentioned it to my gp. I had tests for STIs (negative), a smear and a referral to a gynaecologist. The smear showed CIN III so I was then referred on to another gynaecologist for a colposcopy (I can only really describe this as being a smear test with bells and whistles) and a lletz procedure to remove the unusual area. They contacted me just over a week later to say they'd found further abnormalities and that I needed blood tests and an MRI. The scan showed nothing so I had a cold knife cone biopsy under a general anaesthetic. They took a chunk of my cervix away, tested it and found clear borders (ie. they'd got all the funny cells with a clear border of normal cells all around). I had 4 stitches which dissolved after about 2-3 weeks. That was 8 years ago, I've had 2 children since and no more problems.

If I can give any advice it would be to try not to worry but to get an appointment as soon as you can - to either treat anything sinister or, more likely, to put your minds at rest.

Timeywimey8 · 30/09/2017 14:56

I had this, I had polyps in my uterus and cervical erosion (I think the technical term is something different now). I had a very short operation to sort both out and haven't had the bleeding since. It wasn't just after sex with me, it got to the stage where I was more or less bleeding all month.

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