Getting OH to take his vitamins

[MammyOnTheMove]

Good morning,

My OH has been advised by our dr that he should take a vitamin supplement but he's so far refused even though I make sure to remind him and have put them in an obvious place so he sees them. He's simply not interested. I cook all the meals so I'm trying to make them as healthy as possible
So he gets as much as I can there but the dr still recommends a supplement. How can I convince him to take them? I'm getting to the stage of putting them in his mouth myself and stroking his throat 😂 (if you've ever had a cat you'll know why)

Are you sure he actually wants another child?

The vitamin supplement probably isn't going to make any difference really, is it? It sounds like one of those vague unscientific unproven things that doctors suggest when they've reached the end of their ability to fix the problem but want to make you feel like you can still do something to help the situation. Try some Google searching and find out whether there's any genuine research to back it up.

Your H's attitude is one of the following:

1. He doesn't believe the vitamin tablet will make any difference - see above.

1. He is actively resisting whatever you are trying to achieve.

If 1. He may be right but you need to do the research to find out if he is.
If 2. He is not co-operating with your plans and you need to find out why.

OP, why do you want another dc with this man, if he didn't grow up after the first and he won't do the one tiny little thing that could make a difference to his sperm morphology??

When you think about all the invasive fertility treatment that some women have to go through, this is NOTHING.

He'showing you exactly what he thinks is important - and it ain't getting you pregnant.

He doesn't want another dc.

@HeddaGarbled, actually specialist fertility supplements make amazing difference to sperm numbers and quality and have been thoroughly researched - it's really a given without a hint of controversy.

However, OP 30 units a weeks sounds like an alcohol problem... and it's terribly damaging to the little swimmers too...

Does DH want another baby? It sounds like he's sabotaging your chances the best he can...

If your H is getting a good balanced diet, why does he need extra vitamins? Personally, I wouldn't worry. He is a grown man and if he chooses not to take them, then so be it. You are not his nursemaid or mother.

@JoJoSM2 who's having 30units a week? He has the occasional beer at the football but not on a regular basis

I can't help who I fancy. It's just this issue.

That's my point OP. How can you fancy someone who acts like a petulant toddler? Have you asked yourself whether it's a normal healthy relationship if you are plotting how to hide vegetables in his food when he's in his 30s? That's not an equal partnership. That's a mother / son relationship. Ugh!

@BitOutOfPractice it's only because there's things we like eating but he likes them without vegetables and we like them with. So I just tell him I've done away with them. It's only in the things I want mushrooms in and can't be bothered cooking different meals for us.

No one is perfect. If we weren't trying to have a baby I wouldn't care as much. Besides he's taken them for the last couple of days without me saying anything to remind him.

Did you pat him on the head and put a sticker on his star chart?

Uhhh man babies are so gross. Tell him to cook his own food and forget about his tablets. He's obviously not bothered.

The thing is....vitamins as pills are not a substitute for real food. He needs the fibre and everything else that is in fruit and veg.

If he doesn't eat fruit or veg he is possibly lacking in Vit C which is easily obtained from a vit pill. But longer term, he's increasing his risks of heart disease and cancer by not eating healthily.

I think his fertility is really the tip of the iceberg here!

You seem to make excuses for him. As an adult he is responsible for his own health.

I don't know how you can't see that your behaviour towards him is supporting his own behaviour, not actually helping him to be a grown up.