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scarring - feel like such a bad mother

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barbapapa · 03/04/2007 09:27

Almost a week ago I took dd to the park - she was running round one of the buildings in the park - a currently empty wooden hut where they sell icecream - and fell onto a vent pipe sticking out of the hut when coming round a corner at speed. Didn't know there was one there and it is a complete fluke dd fell on it - tripping in a certain way , not taking the corner properly .
Anyway she cut her face across her cheek - it bled but not for too long and she did not need stitches. I had it looked at by a nurse who thought it was quite superficial and would not scar.
However I keep running it over in my mind thinking I should have been watching her more carefully. I am also worried that it will scar and that this will cause problems for her . It still looks really red and angry.
Not really looking for any advice - just feeling a bit emotional. As regards the cut I have been applying aloe vera gel and will start with bio oil once the scab is off . There does seem to be quite a red mark though, I hope it will fade in time.....

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HuwEdwards · 03/04/2007 09:30

oh blimey barbapapa, I'm sure she will be fine and if the nurse thought it wouldn't scar, thats very likely the outcome.

There is no way you could've prevented it - just in the way that there was no way I could've stopped my my DD (not quite 2 at the time)running into the corner of the TV and being whisked to A&E.

She'll be fine, honest.

barbapapa · 03/04/2007 09:36

Thanks Huw
In my heart of hearts I know I could not have prevented it but I still can't help running it over in my mind
How is your dd now?

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Skyler · 03/04/2007 09:42

My dd1 has a scar on her cheek where she ran away from me and as I grabbed for her I scratched her face . You think you feel bad! It still makes me want to cry when I look at it sometimes. You have done all the right things and it was a total accident. Try not to feel too bad. The problem for us was that the scab kept being knocked off so it took ages to heal and it was deep. My dd has bio oil every day and the scar def looks better when we remember to use it twice a day. She has had the scar for two years now but the HV and doctor still seem to think it will fade eventually. Hope this makes you feel a bit better.

olivo · 03/04/2007 12:06

barbapapa - my dd has a scar on her face where she scratched herself. her fingernails are a nightmare and i often forget to cut/file them.
i was told that massaging the area is good as it breaks down scar tissue (?) and was also given a lovely organic rosehip oil to rub in. its only been 10 days or so but its already looking less noticeable.

and dont blame yourself, it was so not your fault.

Chloe55 · 03/04/2007 12:09

You can't beat yourself up over this, you can't hold her hand every step she takes. Sometimes she is bound to fall, very occassionally she will hurt herself, you can't stop this happening. I'm sure she will be fine - I bet she has forgotten about it already and probably quite likes her war wound!

misdee · 03/04/2007 12:13

dd1 has several scars on her face from where she scrtached herself at a day old (honestly!). she also has a scar on her forehead where she was play fighting at age 6, a chickenpox scar from xmas 2005, etc etc.

barbapapa · 03/04/2007 13:18

Thanks everyone
You're right Chloe she quite likes her warwound and can't wait to show it off to some more friends this afternoon!

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ComeOVeneer · 03/04/2007 13:23

Accidents happen. Don't beat yourself up about it. I really recommend Bio Oil. It is a bit pricey but absolutely fabulous at healing to prevent scars.

Skyler · 03/04/2007 20:44

And the Bio Oil lasts forever!

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