Feel like this is a Police State!

[mm22bys]

This is a bit long-winded so please bear with me!

I took my DS0.4 to see the HV about some issues, and she thought he needed to see a GP.

GP saw him and he thought he should see a specialist. He rang the hospital while I was still with him, and they were talking about admitting DS straight away....

Turned out later that day that it would actually be within two weeks that he would be seen in the hospital.

I got worried enough though after not hearing anything for a couple of days so I rang the specialist myself and tried to arrange to see him privately.

After he found out we don't have PHI he said he would try to get him seen at the NHS hospital ASAP.

The next day I got a phonecall saying he would have to go in the next day.

Two days later I got a letter from the hospital inviting me to make an appt for DS.

By that stage DS had already seen the specialist, so I rang the appointment centre to cancel.

Today I got a letter from the hospital telling me that they are going to tell the GP that I didn't make an appointment with the specialist!

Aaaaaaaggggghhhhh. I feel like this a police / nanny state gone bonkers!!!!

Thanks for letting me rant...

those letters are standard, annoyingly (you'll get used to them )

after BEGGING the useless GP for an ENT referral for one of mine, we eventually got the referral but the Choose and Book system didn't work so I called the hospital and sorted out the appointment myself. I then got no less than 5 letters asking why I hadn't made an appointment (even though I called the Choose and Book people to let the know) and letters telling me they would inform the GP.

I suppose it's to catch people who don't make appointments when they need them or people who (understandably!) get confused and don't know what to do!

tbh, sounds to me more like the right hand doesn't know what the left hand is doing and vice versa.

how is your ds?

hope ds is OK btw

police state?

Calm down!

You and specialist bypassed the system.

Specialist probably didn't tell appointments office that your ds was being admitted. It is quite reasonable that the appointments office let the GP know you didn't attend, and it's quite reasonable that they tell you that they are going to tell the GP.

oh hope he's okay now. Knowing NHS admin from the inside (lucky me)I'd saythis was pure admin mix-up - letter automatically triggered from hospt to you even though you'd already been seen. different departms not communicating wiht one another! Dont' worry,I'm sure your GP will have seen this happen beofre .

My fucking HV is doing my nut.

DD1 has dyspraxia and yet their still hasseling me about potty training her and the fucking paed is telling them I said XYZ blah blah blah.

HV called me at work and I finally snapped and said, 'Look lady, I come from a country that takes the term 'Police state' to heart as much as NuLabour does targets. If I want to be harrassed, cajoled and treated like a crook, I'll round up DD1's and my blue passports, and get on the next plane back there, so I'd appreciate it if you'd cool it.'

Just be firm with them. Tell them you don't like being policed, harrassed or cajoled.

did you really say "look lady"? PMSL that's hilarious.

I'm calm enough, don't worry about that .

DS is doing much better thanks for asking! He saw an opthalmologist and he did find some vision loss, but he thought it may just be DVM (Delayed Visual Maturation). He is going to be seen at another hospital in a couple of months time.

I think he is seeing more. He is actively following the mobile over his cot, and he is a lot more smiley and he laughs now too, which is cute (not the belly laughs my first DS was doing but they will come I guess - and each baby is different anyway...).

He also saw a neurologist and while he is going to have an MRI scan in about 2 months time he thought that there was no underlying neurological condition.

He is a lot more active than he was, and is a lot more interactive, so he is a lot more fun and I am enjoying him a lot more too now.

Yes, gee .

I just said, 'Look, lady,' and carried on.

She was like, 'Oh, erm, sorry.'

Yeah, damn straight, lady. Thank you very much for minding your own beeswax!

FioFio,

being oversensitive is my specialty .

I know it's just an admin thing, and I do also know that both specialists will already have written to my GP, so the GP will know that I haven't not made an appt for DS!

mm22bys, glad to hear little DS is better

expat - LOL - are you a New Yorker?!

Thanks LEL, really appreciate your kind words and support

No, I'm not a New Yorker, I'm a Texan. People say that there all the time, too.

I'm sick of them riding my ass all the time about potty training her.

She's not interested just now.

She'll go when she's good and ready.

She didn't walk till she was nearly 2.

So?

She got up and walked in her own time and if other people don't like it they can go play in traffic.

I don't think that HV will be bugging me any more

I also told the paed, in my Texas accent, 'Perhaps there's been a teeny miscommunication, ma'am, but I was under the impression that . . . and I thought we should clear a few things up. In writing. Please ask your staff to have a look out for my letter. Much as I appreciate our little chats, well, what a terrible shame it'd be to see letter writing become a lost art.'

In other words, start playing bullshit he said/she said games with me you cow or I really will take the kid back to the US where at least I can expect some decent healthcare to go with being harrassed.

Not sure Fiofio. He's not rolling over yet, but I have read that some babies never really roll over, or only do it a couple of times.

He's only 0.45 months old, so I am not really sure of exactly what he should be doing at this age. He's my second, but I can't remember what his brother was doing at the same age.

I guess our biggest concern is his sight, but we won't know the extent of any loss for at least another couple of months. From what I have read, VI can be responsible for some developmental delays, but I am not sure how early those delays become apparent.

expat - you crack me up

mm22bys - have a look here re rolling over. I'm trying to remember when DS did it... I think around 4 months

Thanks FF, and LEL, thanks for the BC article.