Medical records request

[WillsF]

Hi all,

This is a fairly sensitive question but one that is fairly urgent and upsetting for me. Has anyone ever requested their medical records and if so what does it contain? I had counselling last year and lied to my OH about what I said (said it was rather vague and general whereas there were lots of things I wanted off my chest). OH now wants to see records and I have requested them and i'm worried about how much detail is contained in them? Any ideas?

No experience Wills but didn't want to read and run.

I'd imagine that your records will contain notes about the conversation that you had, maybe a brief outline in the way that doctors would type when you see the GP, although I'm not entirely sure.

Can I ask why you DP wants to see your records? As your conversation with the counsellor should be confidential between you and them. I see no reason as to why he needs to know what was spoken about.

Hugs

That's really controlling of your OH, and quite troubling. I'm honestly not surprised you're feeling anxious.

Maybe consider re-posting your concerns in Relationships?

In the meantime I'd consider recontacting your GP and ask to speak to someone about keeping the details of your counselling sessions confidential - say why if necessary.

Why on earth does he want to see your records?!

There is absolutely no way I would ever give my medical records to my dh. Not because I have anything to hide, but because it's none of his business. It's particularly none of his business what I discussed with my counsellor in our private sessions.

I'm very concerned that you have requested your medical notes for your dh. Why does he want to see them?

That really crosses a red line.
Counselling is confidential.
Why does DH want to see records?
Why have you agreed?

Yes it's very controlling for your OH to want to see your medical records - sends massive alarm bells for me.

It's unlikely that anything you discussed with your counsellor will be on your notes but information that you gave to a psychiatrist if you saw one might be on a letter and of course anything that you have discussed with your GP.
I can think of no good scenario in which a partner would want to see Ines medical notes. I feel a bit worried for you.

What the hell? Don't show them to him!

It's impossible to know how much will be in them really, I requested full notes for something and some parts were very detailed, and other bits quite vague

I don't think what you said will be in your notes but that's not the point. Why does he want to see the records? Tell him to sold off!! He's bang out of order

Sod off not sold off!

Why on earth would he want to see them? Why would you agree?
Is he massively controlling? Because that's the only reason I can see why this would occur.

I may be barking up the wrong tree, but my instinct is that the subject you were more open about than you've admitted to your DH was your DH and your relationship.
He has no right to see these records, and no right to ask you to get hold of them.
If I were you, I'd get in touch with the surgery asap and explain what has happened. Ask them not to send the records.
Are you happy in your marriage?

LTB! He sounds controlling and it's none of his business

Jesus! That is totally, totally out of order. Absolutely no way. Don't put up with this kind of behaviour.

Wills, how you doing with these responses?

Hope you don't feel too critised. People are concerned for you.

Absolutely agree with dancing. All these responses are expressing concern for you, not judging you.