Help me get positive

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So my partner recently passed away and it is very tragic and painful. I am trying my best to get on with things, I am working again I have good and bad days. Some of the bad days last for a few days and in those days I feel very lazy, I can't be bothered with cleaning or doing too much. I have a daughter and I am doing my best with her but sometimes I can't be bothered to cook and make and just make her oven food or pasta and sauce.

I think on the whole I am holding it together quite well considering but I am probably doing the bare minimum. Like I feel so lazy to do any exercise atall so I recently joint an exercise class that I love but it is difficult and I want to be in better shape to do it but I can't motivate myself to do any other exercise to get in the better shape.

I want something to give me energy and positivity maybe some sort of self help book perhaps?

Someone told me recently they walk and listen to audio books so maybe something like that would be useful? Any ideas? Im just feeling so so lazy

I'm very sorry to hear about your partner, how long ago did they pass? I think you are being very hard on yourself. You are obviously still grieving. Audio books are wonderful and you can get lost for a few hours and it may help with your grief!

Sorry to hear of your loss

Run through the alphabet every evenings and for each letter think of something that gave you joy that day or that you were thankful to have in your life. The 'puzzle' aspect of it having to think of a thing for each letter makes it a bit more useful and interesting that pure mindfullbess or mediation imo.

You poor love, I'm so sorry. I think it sounds like you're doing the very best you can so be kind to yourself.
I like the alphabet suggestion by a pp. mindfulness stuff can sound a bit ridiculous but I genuinely have found it helpful when I feel like I'm spiralling.
Books are a great escape, audio or otherwise. I don't know much about self help tbh but I'm sure there are good ones out there. Novels are brilliant for distracting yourself and getting lost for a bit. I just read an amazing one called Any Human Heart that I'd definitely recommend.

Good luck and be brave, you're doing well