Teenage depression

[SaucySpider]

My 17 year old is severely depressed and is currently under CAHMS. When she is on a real downer she won't come out of her room or join us for meals. Part of me wants to insist she comes down, but the other part feels that I am putting more pressure on her by doing so. I let her know that I am available at any time if she wants to talk and pop in from time to time to make sure she is ok. I would just like opinions as to whether or not I should be more forceful in making her join us.

Is she on any medication yet?
My son was seriously depressed from a similar age and was on antidepressants for a year.
I wouldn't force her to do anything she doesn't want to do but keep up the gentle persuasion, does she talk to you or is that difficult for her?
My youngest son, has just turned 16, has been very low this year too, I think the teenage years are very difficult for some children.

Poor DD, poor you. I have been there (and come out successfully at the other side) with one of my DCs. I understand your dilemma. I think it was helpful for me to remind myself that the DC is not thinking rationally, therefore is unlikely to act logically and thoughtfully. So I saw it as my job to be as over-the-top kind and loving, even if I did not get a positive response.

Would it be appropriate for you to take to her room a tray with her dinner? Maybe with a little flower or cheery note to show her how much she is loved?

Good luck, whatever you choose. Hope she gets better soon.