Ds has had fevery cold since Friday, seems a bit better today, shall we go to things or keep away?

[FrannyandZooey]

He doesn't seem hot now, just sniffy - it was a nasty bug and really knocked him low over the weekend, but I think he is on the mend

we have a music group and a birthday party to go to

what do you reckon?

I think he will cope but will we give it to other people?

I bet if I had put this in AIBU I would have had 60 posts by now

I haven't mentioned either of them in case I decide he is not well enough to go

he will deffo want to go to the party if I tell him, it is just a small tea party at my friend's house

AIBU to let my son sneeze in his party bag?

I usually take ds out even if he is a bit ill mostly because it seems to make things more bearable for him and me. My ususal rules are

cold etc - no temperature then I take him pretty much anywhere

Anything else that could be contagious or if he seems really unwell (eg temperature, being sick, runny nappies, specific illness etc) then if we got out (hich we still do sometimes) I stick to outdoor type places and try and avoid somewhere he will be in close contact with other children for long periods of time.

As your ds seems to be over the worst and has no temperature I'd probably take him to the music group, I am assuming it is not very long and I'd probably go to he party too though I'd be prepared to take him home early of he seemed cranky or unhappy.

As for being contagious - I'd have thought he was over the most contagious part by now. Since most of these illnesses that children seem to get are non specific viruses it is difficult to know when they are contagious. I thought most of them were at their most contagious before the real symptoms develop (sneakly things these viruses) so seeing as your ds seems to be recovering I'd say he was OK to go.

Mind you Ds has been ill quite a lot since Christmas so if we had stayed home through all of that we wouldn't have left the house in nearly 3 months so my opinion may be a bit biased by that

I think we may ditch music group (I mean it will be on again next week so no big deal to miss it)

and see how he is this afternoon for party? Thing is, I would like to tell my friend definitely whether we are coming or not, this morning

Take him, the poor little thing needs to run about and have some fun (and to get rid of that germ and give it someone else - ha ha ha!!!!). Kids get ill all the time, and he doesn't have something nasty like measles, does he?

No it is just a nasty cold, but I don't want to give it to my friends or their children, obviously

ah I didn't realise both were on today. In that case I'd only go to one as well. Why not call you friend and say you will bring ds assuming he doesn't seem worse this morning. Also you may want to check that she is happy for him to come over. She is a parent she'll understand if you have to call and say you can't come at the last minute.

I wouldn't worry about it. My ds has had a cold since january, he keeps getting new ones from other friends or nursery. TBH when he starts school he will spend the first winter half dead with virus and cold after virus and cold!!!! Best get him and his friends stocked up with immunity before then! . If you were my friend and my ds caught a cold off of you (or me for that matter), I would still be your friend and wouldn't bat an eyelid - I'm sure you or your ds will get germs back at some point, friends are supposed to share, after all

Oh sure, I will check with my friend first anyway

I don't think everyone has the same laissez faire attitude to catching colds IME

No, I agree, they probably don't . My SIL is very protective of her LO and gets upset if anyone touches his face in case he gets germs. You can bring your snotty germs round to mine if you like, you're very welcome here .