Anyone have a prolapse repair early 30s?

[Whatcanido13]

Hi
I know there are lots of threads on prolapse but they all seem quite old and I haven't found a huge amount of info on women who have had postpartum prolapse repairs (not post menopausal) that hoped to have more children.
I have what has been graded as 'mild' cystocele and rectocele since having my baby 1 year ago. I've been doing loads of Physio but not getting much relief from the symptoms. When I first discovered the prolapses at 8 weeks post partum all the health care professionals told me it would feel better with time and after a while I wouldn't notice anymore. Well that is absolutely not the case. I feel them constantly and although I would love more children (ds was my first) I can't see how I could gag pregnant at the moment with sex so uncomfortable. It's really impacting my life - can't exercise, have sex or even use the bathroom normally.
I know surgery has its own risks and I'm not rushing into anything but I really just wanted to hear if anyone out there has had this type of surgery in their 30s? (Im 31 in a few weeks)
How was it? The recovery? Was it difficult to get a surgeon to do it? Have you considered more children
? Did things return to 'normal'? (I'm not expecting pre pregnancy state or anything)
Would love to hear from you! This really sucks so badly, I can't believe NOONE warned me. I'm 8 stone and pushed for 2 hours to get my 9lb baby out. Grrrrrr!!!

I considered it as I had double prolapse after DC,2 when I was 40. Was advised only to go ahead when family complete as another pregnancy could cause the repair to fail and the gynaecologist said the first repair is usually the most successful.
In the end I decided to live with it rather than risk none essential surgery with two children under 4.

I'm 59 now and I never did get it done! It seems much less troublesome since menopause.

Hello - I had anterior and posterior repair aged 32, I had 2 young dcs and needed a lot of help with them during recovery. The recovery was much longer than the estimated 6 weeks you read about, I was mostly bed bound with a catheter for first 2.5 weeks (but that's unlucky).

I carried on lifting the youngest once the repair was well healed but unfortunately due to an underlying condition (we didn't know about then) the repairs have failed and I'm having them redone along with a hysterectomy shortly - I'm now 34.

I was told not to have any repairs until I had finished my family which obviously I had.

I tried a pessary first which wasn't for me and have done untold amounts of women's Physio which made no difference what so ever.

I wouldn't have the repairs if you want more children as they may not last and I certainly wouldn't want to go though that op twice if I could avoid it, plus each time they repair your tissue is crapper etc.

Good luck with your decision, it's a very crappy condition to have although not life threatening it does impact your quality of life.

yes I had a repair at around 36 after my 2nd DC. She was 2 then. I didn't want more children and any more after the op could have undone the work! You could have an elective CS but sometimes even the weight of carrying the baby can be enough to make it worse.

recovery was 6 weeks.

Sorry - pressed too soon. I found it ok to get it done but it was privately.
I needed help at home for a few weeks and no lifting - you'd need to adapt what you do- no lifting a toddler etc.
There are loads of tips on here if you go ahead.

You need to find a really good surgeon and talk it all through especially about any future pregnancies. Ask around for recommendations - there is a range of experience in surgeons so find one who has good results.

Hi ladies. Really sorry for the delay and thank you so much for getting back to me on this!
The consensus seems to be wait until family is complete.
My issue is that this is driving me slightly mad. I feel it constantly, every time I get up from sitting to standing, when I pick up my child, tidy, lift anything, walk. It's really impacting my life and starting to affect my mental health in a major way. I feel totally trapped in this body that had failed me and used to be so active. Myself and my husband have discussed it and are thinking that maybe one baby is all we will have. I couldn't imagine being pregnant with this feeling, I just don't think I could handle it as well as the baby we already have. It makes me sad but at the same time I need to respect my own mental and physical health
Thanks for the advice. I won't be rushing into anything and will do lots of research before making any decisions.
Thanks again

I had cystocele & rectocele after having my 2 children. I had it after my DS (age 31) & pregnancy with my DD made it worse. I had surgery when I was 34, my gynaecologist was lovely & told me that no amount of pelvic floor exercises would help me as it was so bad & what he would normally see in someone in their 70's. I'm now 2&half years post surgery & have a mild cystocele but it is high up & not bothering me too much. If you do have surgery then please feel free to private message me for more info & definitely do not have mesh.

I agree the prolapse does drive you mad and has a huge psychological impact. However, it might help to remember it is not life threatening, and it can be repaired. In the meantime, it's about managing your symptoms and your mental health.
The pelvic floor exercises with the physiotherapist did help me, but it took many months before I felt an improvement. The feeling of 'something' there did go away a lot more often. Sex was uncomfortable/not the same but doable as the prolapse flattens out when you are lying down. After a lot of avoidance and soul searching, I made the decision that making the effort to have sex was better than avoiding it. As avoiding it led to more worries for myself, while having it made me feel 'normal' again and lessened the impact of the prolapse.
Exercise, you might be able to walk (on level ground), early in the day rather than evening times, or swimming is not so bad either.
There is good advice on the Michelle Kenway pages and some forums there. I do get the bit about feeling it every time you sit up, stand up, go to the loo, climb the stairs, pick up something off the floor etc etc. It does really get you down.
I had the repair but it was when my youngest was 7. It was very successful, a simple stitched repair with no mesh.

I had a hysterectomy at 35... prolapse, rectocele and cystocele and hideous periods so they decided to get rid of it.
Family finished , however tbh I was so uncomfortable that I was not having any more anyway.
The hysterectomy solved the majority of symptoms but I still have a rectocele which for me means no bowl movement without suppositories and sometimes a dragging sensation. Mostly it is manageable tho. It doesn't dominate my body, mind or life like it did, and after 10 years of suppositories they are just part of my daily routine.
I had several small children when I had my hysterectomy so rest was not possible... an probably I would have fewer residual problems if I had rested properly (too much lifting!) so I would bear that in mind... any hitch up op needs proper recovery time!

I was told that they wouldn't even consider surgical repair till my family was complete.

Then my second pregnancy proved to be twins! (Although I had a c section so it didn't get as much worse as I'd feared)

I've got toddler twins now so I've still not had it done. I've had other health problems in the interim and it's not really up the top of the list of priorities at the mo.

Physio didn't really help me either. Time does seem to be helping a little.

Hello I was wondering if you could tell me your story I’m currently under physio. My pelvic floor is slightly tighter but my cervix very low still. I currently have a heavy lower belly, sex hurts and the mental side of things are too much. They are reluctant to operate as I may want another child but I can’t live like this even if it gives me a good few years. I don’t want a child any time soon as I’m single but it’s making my life so miserable. I would pay if I can. Just want this fixed. I feel broken. What op did you have and was it nhs ?

@Whatcanido13 did you have the surgery?