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Period rage....

29 replies

catsatonthemat · 01/07/2017 18:57

I feel embarrassed and ashamed really posting this but hoping for others experience....

Since having kids I get really ragey on the days leading up to my period and the first day off. I have one ragey explosive day where I try and avoid anything remotely stressful because I just can't control myself and am shouting, yelling and crying irrational mess.

I tried mentioning it to my GP that I get quite grumpy and she said evening primrose or the pill. I'm hesitant to go on the pill. But I think something needs to change because I hate that part of me. DH is very understanding but it's not nice for him or my kids.

Had anyone got any advice or anything to try?

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mistermagpie · 01/07/2017 19:06

I've no advice but since having kids my PMT and period pain are both through the roof, I had no idea this was a 'thing'!

Hopefully somebody will be along with some advice, I don't fancy the pill either.

Loopyloppy · 01/07/2017 19:18

No advice but following. I'm a monster bitch from hell for two days. I can't believe dh has stayed with me. Sad

Justhadmyhaircut · 01/07/2017 19:20

I call my B complex my anti bitch tablets. . .

plimsolls · 01/07/2017 19:32

I'm having this exact issue and have been meaning to ask for advice on here. So I'm following with interest and solidarity? Cake

I've been told to look into evening primrose and starflower, and Vitamin D.

I do have a history of low D and B12 so I'd be interested to hear if anyone has found that's linked.

I've a prescription for the pill but I've not started it yet as like you I'm reluctant. Someone else told me the coil turned out to be a good solution for regulating their hormones.

Hoping this thread throws up some good advice and personal recommendations.

I really do feel so beaten down by this, and my baby is only 10months.... I need so much patience at the best of times and sometimes digging deep and suppressing my anger is honestly exhausting me.

KellyMarieTunstall2 · 01/07/2017 19:32

Hello Op. I empathize, my pmt was so bad I went to see my gp who recommended the pill or antids. I didn't want to try either but I tried agnus castus instead. I read that it takes 3 months to start working and I persevered, and it worked amazingly, reducing my pmt from 2 weeks out of 4 to just a day of feeling narky. My husband was greatly impressed!

I recommended it to my friend who said after 4 months of taking it she was surprised to start her period as she'd had no usual warning of the tearfulness, craving for chocolate or bloatedness.

cremedelashite · 01/07/2017 19:38

Reducing caffeine and lower sugar helps mine no end

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catsatonthemat · 01/07/2017 19:41

Oh thank fuck it's not just me! I had stocked up today on Bcomplex, B6 and B12 along with a magnesium spray but I'll get some Agnus cactus too. Oh it's just awful isn't it. I didn't realise how depressed i get between ovulation and my period starting and the rage until I asked my DH what it's like from his perspective. Think I've been in denial really. Oh well let's support each other.

Thanks for the advice. I'll keep you all posted. It's scary feeling so out of touch with yourself.

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KanyesLunchbox · 01/07/2017 20:07

I take high strength evening primrose oil and it's like flipping a switch in me. I honestly notice the difference straight away if I miss it the week before my period. And given my cycle is down to about 22 days, it's noticeable.

Ellieboolou27 · 01/07/2017 20:14

Me too! I'm almost scared of myself in the lead up to my period, definitely since having kids as can't remember being this bad.
Maybe it's down to pre kids I could relax more and wasn't as stressed.
I've always been low iron and B deficiency so I'm sure this doesn't help.
I'm glad you mentioned it as I thought I was alone in my monthly rages, they start a good 10-12 days before too.

plimsolls · 10/07/2017 22:00

How's everyone doing? I've just finished my period and am enjoying feeling relatively balanced and reasonable for a time!

I've got a b12 spray, vit D and magniesium ready for this cycle. I think I'll go back to the shops and get agnus castus and evening primrose too (I'll check they're ok for breastfeeding first).

I have been so relieved to read the comments on this thread and realise that there's others feeling the same. Like a PP said, I've actually felt scared of
myself and horribly guilty at some points in the last month. I'm sorry of course that you are all struggling too but I'm glad we have been able to share our experiences.

KanyesLunchbox · 10/07/2017 22:04

Be careful of agnus castus when bf, it can restart your cycle!

GoodyGoodyGumdrops · 10/07/2017 22:58

Evening primrose oil did nothing for me pms, but vit b6 was amazing.

IIRC the dosage varies, you can't go by what's on the box. You start with it mid-cycle, at the dosage on the box, but increasing by one tablet every day until your urine smells of B6. Then stick at that dose until your period is finished.

Really feel sorry for those for whom this started after babies. For me it was the other way around: horrendous before babies, but so much better after (then I only had to contend with PNDConfused).

KanyesLunchbox · 11/07/2017 00:01

I'm the opposite Goody, vit b supplements of any kind, even very high bit b foods, make my boobs so incredibly painful I can't even wear a bra. I discovered this after being prescribed vit b for boob pain Confused

Waterlow · 11/07/2017 06:46

Yet EPO helped my boob pain. Tho TBH I'm not sure how much that was placebo/would have eased anyway.

Dons1975 · 11/07/2017 06:57

I've just had a holiday ruined by my bad moods, boob pain and general feeling of crap. What is b complex ? I've tried starflower before but didn't see much difference. Do you take every day or just part way thru cycle?
I have a terrible issue remembering to take pills too!!

allegretto · 11/07/2017 07:04

Bookmarking. I have started writing on my calendar "don't argue with dh" on the days of pmt as I get so angry and feel out if control. I have to remind myself that it's not real.

plimsolls · 11/07/2017 19:50

@kanyeslunchbox When you say "restart your cycle" do you mean start having periods again or something else? unfortunately I've been having periods since about 12 weeks post partum despite ebf (hence my period rage issues etc) so that's not a concern for me but I'm wondering if you meant something else?

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catsatonthemat · 23/07/2017 20:10

Sorry I've not replied. I started taking evening primrose, vitb6, b12 and Bcomplex. I'm not sure the dose is right. I'm moving towards my TOTM and can feel my mood has dipped and I'm already feeling tired and bloated and grumpier.... I only take one tablet of each

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catsatonthemat · 23/07/2017 20:13

I'm wondering if I should double my dose of B6 now

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catsatonthemat · 31/07/2017 21:02

How is everyone? Well my period arrived and I think less ragey with the vitamins.

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plimsolls · 01/08/2017 12:22

I've been feeling so much better this month after starting all the supplements.

I definitely had a bit of a dip in mood/anger levels around ovulation.

A strong blip yesterday night and today where my nursing aversion has been quite strong, and I've felt a bit more down, and a lot more impatient. I don't know if it's because I missed my supplements yesterday or if because I'm getting v close to when my period is due

Glad you've also been feeling better Op.

Walkingtowork · 01/08/2017 12:52

I cut out dairy for a medical issue, and one brilliant side-effect is no more pmt! Have heard about others experiencing the same thing. Don't know why, but I wonder if it's to do with the hormones and various things (sorry, vague) that cows are given, getting into their milk.

plimsolls · 01/08/2017 13:11

That's interesting walking. I cut out dairy this month too (baby is allergic to it, it turns out).

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catsatonthemat · 01/08/2017 13:55

Oh I've not thought of that. Hmmm I'll consider cutting it out. I'll see how I get on over the next month.

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tickyandtackyandjackythebacky · 01/08/2017 14:07

I've found my people. I'm like this after having dcs too. I got some ad's from the gp but lasted a week. I was scared off by the awful side effects. Going to try some of the suggestions here. I'm so much more shouty for 2 weeks of the month it's horrible. Exercise really did help for a while but my laziness put an end to that... must be less lazy