21 year old daughter HELP

[Jultay]

Sorry if this is a long one .
My 21 yr old daughter suffers with depression and anxiety ... she has been in Sertraline and propananol 18 months. She is constantly asleep and cannot get up for work in the morning.
When she comes home from work after a 5/6 hour shift she has to sleep.
She sets her phone alarm turns it off and goes back to sleep daily. If it wasn't for me she would not have a job but I have recently stopped doing this to teach her a lesson and try to make her change .
She has been on holiday last week and today is her first day back at work and she is going to be late for work.
She had slept from 7pm to 815 this morning and is still tired.
We have had alarm clocks set so she has to get out of bed etc but nothing works. The need for sleep is far greater.
She never has any energy and everything is a struggle. She would never be able to live on her own like this .
She has no motivation to do anything at all .. only sleep. I have tried to get her exercising with me but she has zero interest.
I am at the end of my tether as nothing seems to sink in and she never learns from what happens. I constantly have to remind her to take her medication and she can't be relied on to do anything at home when I'm at work and she's day off.
I have to ring her from work to make sure she's up and out of bed.
Can anybody shed any light on what's the problem here . Doctors appt is booked but I am struggling as this behaviour is surely not right .

She was actually ill on holiday with tonsillitis yet again ... I think she is very run down as you say ... she still slept loads on holiday one day she didn't get up till 5pm 😲.
When she does go out she drinks loads and gets blotto ... I think this is because when she's drunk she's confident and outgoing and forgets the real person .... thank goodness the binge drinking is not a regular occurrence x

Hi, it sounds like you are having a difficult time at the moment. Your post really resonated with me because your description of your daughter sounded exactly like me at 21, right down to the medication. I was a complete mess and the medication definitely made me very tired, but I also had weight gain, horrendous indigestion and headaches. I wonder if some of your daughter's illnesses could be side effects of the medication too.

I agree with other posters to suggest a change of medications, and especially to look at alternatives such as CBT (I found it really helpful), but I just wanted to say that hopefully it won't always be like this for her. When I had depression I felt that I would never get better, but I did. It was a long process, but I think I am happier than I ever was before because I have learnt to value what is really important in life.

Also, I can see with hindsight, that I really put my lovely mother through some stress, and at times acted completely selfishly due to my illness. But I did (and still do) appreciate everything she did for me, and I'm sure it is the same with your daughter. Good luck to you both.

She has had a big weight gain and indigestion on these meds just like yourself ... about 6 months ago she tried to come off the sertraline by reducing the dose obviously with doctors guidance but started having anxiety and panic attacks.
She has booked to see the GP on July 11th and I think it's definitely time to change these meds .

It's comforting to hear that hopefully it won't always be like this x

I hope it is different for you than me - The ups and downs of things looking to be better, and then realizing no, its back to square one, Its a bumpy never-ending road for my son, that we have been going through for years. Some really dark stuff going in circles

My ds wasn't thinking of the future or how he would live when if he stopped going to work - but I was.

For my DS there seems to be no actual cure more managing, and although he is doing well today, he may be back at square one tomorrow with no warning whatsoever so I can never relax and think 'phew that's over' - because it has been years and looks like it never will be over

He is more of a worry now than he was when he was a toddler.

Isn't it strange to Jultay- I mean i'm mid 40s but I remember as a teenager myself or early twenties I didn't know a single other person with depression the same age as me

but these days it seems epidemic, they have more opportunities and choices than we ever did, but they are depressed with their lot

I honestly don't understand the shift

Liver function? Thyroid? By that, I mean T3, T4 and TSH. Glandular Fever?
All of these things wipe you out.
If calcium and vit D are out of synch, could be parathyroid.
GPs mean well when they run a 'full panel', but it isn't really checking thoroughly.
In my 20's I had a liver function issue. They checked me for hepatitis (nope), then my arms for track marks (nope - but made my Mum sob - twatty GP). I was also vomiting and sleeping all day.
12 months of no alcohol, meds (including contraceptive pill), eating very low fat foods - I was back to me again.
After pregnancy my thyroid went insane. Diagnosed with Graves', took my thyroid. Symptoms persisted, and it seems to be Mast Cell activation issues. I definitely do not have Graves. Low (or no) thyroid just wipes you out.

I have remained low body weight throughout. I'm studying neurology to attempt to fix myself. My blood results have been misread on multiple occasions.

There are answers somewhere, but don't be fobbed off with a diagnosis with no explanation of origin.
I'd be fibro/CFS if my previous GP had to call it. I have neither.

How do you go about checking all these things apart from the 'normal' bloods.
Do you have to see someone besides the GP please.

Hi, i. A psychiatric nurse, it sounds like the sertraline is sedating her, perhaps a move to citalopram or venlafaxine would help. Hope your gp is good. Pm me if any queries xxx

Thank you we are going to the GP on 11 July this is the first book able appt 😡

could be glandular fever ?