Sat here shaking, don't know what to do or say

[Radley]

A very close friends of mine has been having alot of problems lately, splitting headaches, dizziness, lost of eyes, multivision, blurred eyesight etc and went for a brain scan this morning.

She has just text me to say that doctor has been and it is the worst news that could come from the brain scan, she is a wreck etc, I don't want to ring her, but, I am sat here a nervous wreck wondering what it could be.

Is there anyone there with any ideas

Brain tumour I would guess.

Poor you and her.

Sorry to say this but it could be a tumour. Be supportive.

Be brave Radley and phone her. She must be very distressed at this news.

Phone her!! She has obviously sent you a text to prompt you to call her so be brave and do it.

I would have assumed brain tumour too.
Give the girl a ring and have a cry together
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Give her a ring, she might want someone to talk to & even if she doesn't at least she will know you care enough to call.

ring her

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Could you go round and see her?

Have you called yet?

dial now, she definitely wants you to ring

sorry to hear this awful news

ring her

say hello and be there for her

the anticipation is far harder than the doing -

pick up the phone radley - if she doesn't want to speak to you she won't

IF IT IS A TUMOUR THEN SUPPORT HER BUT PLEASE MAKE SURE THAT YOU HAVE SUPPORT AS WELL

Ring her. If it is brain tumour it may be operable or non cancerous therefore pretty good chance of getting over it. She obviously needs your support ring her to show it. Your going to have to be strong for her at this uncertain time.

If you are too scared to ring text her "Do you want me to call you ?" and then you'll see if she does or not. Good Luck !

Sorry for not replying, I've had alot going on over past few days.

She has got a tumour on the left side of her brain, at the minute she has been put on very strong steroids, she is at the hospital on Tuesday with her mum and hubby to find out about treatment, prognosis etc. Can't beleive this is happening to her, she is only 32

I can't go visit her as she lives nearly 245 miles away, but, I am planning to go first weekend in April.

Thanks for all your messages.

good on you for making that call, it's not easy to do, my DH was told he has a brain tumour in jan, his is on the right side, lots of people have been supportive and a few people have not been in touch at all, i guess they can't handle it, the ones that have been in touch are the ones that we know we can count on, the other people for whatever reason do not feel comfortable with it, we don't have the choice
let us know how she gets on with her follow up vist

I haven't rung her, i've asked if she would like me to, but she says it's too hard to talk to people at the moment.

yes it will be difficult to talk without her getting upset could you email her?
it is difficult, and there are people who we can talk to about it then there are other who we don't want to feel upset/vunerable in front of so we don't say much to those people, if you can't email her send her a letter/card.

Send her a card, not a sympathy/get well soon card, but a nice arty card with no message.
Write in it what your own message, words of support if you wish, but more importantly tell her you love her. She will talk to you when she is ready, esp if she knows you care for her.
Good luck

yes send a card but NOT a get well soon one, just ensure that you stay in touch and when she is ready and got things more sorted in her head she may feel able to talk.
i think the hardest thing for us was people asking us questions that we didn't know the answer too. it gave us more to be uncertain about.
ask your friend how you can help, childcare, school runs, making phonecalls, i know i had several appointment to cancel and i was at the bursting into tears stage so it was lovely to let someone else do the calls. could you offer lifts to hospital for your friend or even her family vistors?