What would you do (Am not sure if this is the correct place to post...)

[MuckyAnthea]

On Sunday, one of my friends had a miscarriage, and had to go to hospital the following day. She asked me to go with her so I could look after her son while she was talking to the doctors. That day I had already arranged something with a friend of mine who is heavily pregnant, I cancelled our meeting, but did not give any excuse other then I was accompanying my other friend to hospital to look after her son.

I am meeting my pregnant friend this week, and I know she will ask about what happened. I am really worried about telling her about the miscarriage in case it brings some kind of bad luck to her, I have no idea of the 'etiquette' with situations like this. My friend who had the miscarriage, also had one previously when she was 8 months, the same as my pregnant friend, so it just bothers me in case I cause any worry about opening up and telling her the facts.

What would you do? I have not been pregnant so have no idea what is the best thing to do in this situation.

for your friend - and how lovely of you to be there for her to look after her son at such a sad time.

Your pregnant friend will know that women have miscarriages. You don't need to go into massive detail - no need to tell her about the miscarriage your friend had at 8m though, I don't think.

Best to be honest. It is sad but not likely to have any actual affect on your friends pregnancy. Are you sure they were both 8 months pregnant?

Did she know your other friend was pregnant or is she likely to find out? If not, I would probably out of tact not tell her about the mc, just try to be vague. If she did, than you really don't have much option but to tell her. You sound like a very thoughtful friend so I am sure you will do it in a way that isn't ghoulish or unnecessarily detailed - that tends to be what gets people upset rather than a simple statement of the facts. A close friend of mine miscarried when I was pregnant with my eldest daughter - our babies would have been born at the same time - but I honestly was only upset for her and not worried about any possible bad luck for me I am sure your friend will be the same

My pregnant friend is 8 months.
The friend who had the miscarriage was only a few weeks pregnant. She had a miscarraige last year, and also the year before when she was 8 months. I feel so sad for her, she does not deserve this one bit [not that any woman would of course]

Thanks everyone for your responses.

RosaL - No - my pregnant friend knows nothing about my other friend. But the thing was, when I emailed her and told her I had to cancel our meeting because I had to hospital, she replied saying 'hope you have a good time' so I am worried she has misunderstood me in some way, and feels I have put one friends needs over hers if you see what I mean [which of course is true]. I think I will be honest and tell her, and If I feel its right, only divulge the other info if she asks....

I personally don't think it's any business of the friend you cancelled on. If it were me, and I had been "dumped" I would assume it was for pretty good reasons and wouldn't go prying into something that really doesn't concern me....I think you have already told her all she needs to know!