Can anyone advise re gallbladder op please - slightly complicated

[dahliaaa]

I would really appreciate advice.

3 months ago my lovely DH was diagnosed out of the blue with advanced prostate cancer which has spread to bones and lymph nodes. No cure but he is having treatment to try and keep him with us for as long as possible.

Meanwhile after lots of discomfort in right side I have been diagnosed with 'numerous large gallstones measuring up to 11cm.) I'm quite slim but did lose half a stone quickly when DH diagnosed which may have triggered the discomfort.

Consultant says I need gallbladder removed to avoid risk of pancreatitis. He was so kind (aware of DH situation who happened UK be in chemo room next door.) and said they could do it quickly to 'get one thing out of the way for you.'

I said that I didn't feel that I could go ahead immediately unless emergency because DH still in middle of chemo. He really was amazing and then said no probs we'll plus you on list for 3 months time but if things difficult just say and we'll try and work around it.

To be honest - other than thinking how brilliant the NHS is I was really paying too much attention as was more worried about DH.

If appointment comes through in 3 months it will be just ahead of DS A levels and I don't want to put anything extra on him while DH I'll too so would probably ask for another delay in op.

Would this be ok ? I'm not actually in any severe pain - it's just the fact that the large gallstones are there and the Dr says it needs to come out - otherwise I would just leave gallbladder there. I don't want to do anything that jeopardises my health as I am obsessed now with being ok for the DC's but at the same time don't want to make our lives even more complicated with an op at a difficult time it's it's not urgent.

Sorry that is so long ! Would appreciate any thoughts.

I had my gallbladder out about 8 years ago. I had problems for about a year before I found out what it was as I was young and then I got pregnant. Unfortunately I lost my baby at 21 weeks and then I had my gallbladder out about 3 months later. I never got pancreatitis but I did get considerable bouts of extreme pain. It was only after I had it out I realised quite how much pain I'd been in. Op was very simple and I recovered in about three weeks. Amazing bruises that followed my stretch marks and looked like flames! Wish I'd taken photos now

I had pancreatitis caused by gallstones about 20 years ago. I was in hospital for about 10 days and nearly died (no exaggeration). It's the worst pain I've ever had. Far worse than childbirth. Between the pancreatitis and gallbladder removal, I had to go on a fat free diet. You should probably do this too until you get it removed. Please get it done sooner rather than later. I wouldn't even wish pancreatitis on Donald Trump

Thanks everyone - think I will stick to low fat diet until I get appt just in case that helps avoid extra probs.
DH is really not well today so overall I think it was probably best not to have it done next week even though I really appreciate the kindness of the surgeon in trying to help.
I'll now just spend the next 12 weeks obsessively trying to avoid pancreatitis in a calm, zen, together way . (Obviously I won't - I'll be running around like a manic Mary Poppins on speed withabsolutely no idea what I'm doing but pretending that everything is hunky dory )

Sorry for your loss Crying