My mum has been morbidly obese since I was very young. She's now in her mid 50s, has had a hip replaced (at a special hospital as she was high-risk). She also has osteoarthritis in her other hip, shoulders and knees.
She credits this to having "one leg shorter than the other" (no idea where that idea came from) and "carrying you around when you were a baby".
She only went to the doctors about her hip because I told her I was seriously worried, as she cried when trying to walk up the stairs.
Now she has also had a cough for months, I suspect acid reflux/GERD, but she just says "I know my body!" and says it's OK as long as she doesn''t move/exercise/exert herself.
But now she is so immobile she's gaining even more weight, and it seems every few months she has arthritis in another joint.
Am I just going to have to watch her deteriorate? I am really worried. But I know how judgemental I'd seem if I raised the weight. She has tried dieting for years but could never quite figure it out and has some odd ideas, like eats biscuits designed for toddlers as she perceives them to be healthy.