Has your DH/DP had a vasectomy and how did you feel when you were waiting for it to be done?

[Sparkler1]

I feel quite strange about it. Seems so final.

oh no has he a date now?

Yep - two weeks' time

anyone?

I felt quite sad when DH had his. In the run up to it we had loads of those,"shall we, shant we" conversations. It was really hard. I knew I never wanted any more children (have 3 DDs) in the rational part of my brain, but the mummy part of my brain was longing to be pregnant and breast feed one last baby.

It's only 6 months since he had the snip, but I know we did the right thing. There aren't enough hours in the day or enough money in the bank for any more LOs.

My MIL is almost 70 and she said the longing for another never goes away, so I'd better get used to it!

yes it was excellent. luckily dh was offered a cancellation on new years eve so grabbed the opportunity as we werent going out anyway

dh is waiting, think it's in may sometime
not a difficult decision for us at all - we have 3 children and don't want anymore. I don't want to be on the pill or use condoms for the rest of our lives, so this was the best choice.
he's fine with it too - getting a lot of flack from friends who are horrified at the thought. I don't see the big deal at all

Thanks guys. Interesting to hear about the longing feeling never going away. I get days when I have a very strong longing and then other days my life with two dd's is perfect. It's good having the two I have right now as I can give them so much more of my time than I would be able to if I had anymore children. With dds being 7 and 5 as well I am getting time back for myself on occasions as well. I keep thinking it's time for DH and I to get back to being a "couple" again rather than the mummy and daddy we have been over the past 7 years. Just occasionally these twinges of cuddling up with another slips in.

Are there really not that many people that go for the vasectomy option out there?

My dh has had one but we have 4 kids. If I had 2 there is no way I would have wanted him to have it, to be honest. Especially not if I couldn't absolutely rule out having more.

As to how I felt-for me it couldn't happen fast enough- I knew we couldn't have any more kids for both financial and health reasons. And more importantly, we didn't want any more. I couldn't have let him have it after the third.

Hi Sparkler

My dp had his done in December.We both knew it had to be done but hated the thought of it iykwim.

We have 4 children ds's 15 and 11 and dd's 2.5 and 6 months.We both knew that if he didn't have it done we would have had another 1/2/3 or maybe more.

I can't see the desire for another baby ever going away but i spread myself sooo thinly as it is it wouldn't have been fair to my children or dp and i to add to our family.

So it was the right decision but we both have days of feeling sad because we know we will never experience pg/birth and all the baby stuff.

While we were waiting for it to be done I felt, primarily, pregnant. And, to my shock, I was.

Once it was actually done, I spent another year or so rushing out to get pregnancy tests, not convincved that the snip had worked. But it had. I then spent another year or so feeling, on and off, unreasonably broody (because there was/is no way we could have another baby nor did I really want one.. knew it was just screwy female repro. hormones so ignored them). Don't feel broody ever anymore. Enjoy other people's babies, and equally enjoy handing them back after ten mins max.

My DP had his two weeks ago yesterday! Only thing about it that upset me was his constant whinning about the pain!!!!

I did kind of feel a little 'oh my god never again' but then as we already have 3 kids between us (1 each from previous and 1 together) I really do think that is enough.

Just can't wait for him to get the all clear so we can do what we like and I can stop taking the pill

Question for others though, how long after did you start having sex again?

My DP had one 2 years ago, when our 3rd child was one. We were fairly sure we had enough children so it wasn't too hard a decision, though DP was quite anxious about it hurting, and in fact he found it fairly pain-free.

only trouble is it hasn't totally worked, 2 years on he's still not had the all clear. (DP, Super-sperm, he's quite proud of his virility )

my dh had one literally days after birth of four 3rd baby. at the time i thought nothing much of it- guess ihad other things on my mind!- but later on it made me a bit sad to knoww it was final. but i knew that i would always crave a newborn and am super fertile so it was the only option as far as we could see. i am pleased he had it done and so is he though ithink he felt a bit strange emotionally for a while afterwards. (btw it was 2 yrs ago)