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I really need help with my eating

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stealscandyfrombabies · 17/02/2007 12:58

I am overweight, very overweight. I hvae put on a lot in the last few months especially and I am teetering on the 18 stone mark. My eating is completely out of control, i think about it all the time and even when there is nothing to snakc on as such I will just eat slice upon slice of toast. I have very low self esteem over this and am worried where I will end up if I dont do something. I even ate sweets that were given to my children. I have tried slimming clubs, liquid diets, internet forums you name it. I am just so ashamed of myself that I cant stop.

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stealscandyfrombabies · 17/02/2007 12:58

I am a regular but was too ashamed to put my name to this.

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Kbear · 17/02/2007 13:04

Firstly, don't be ashamed.

Overeating is a slippery slope, we all know that.

There are lots of reasons why you're overeating and only you know them. My advice would be to see your GP or practice nurse for a chat. Ask for specific help. You admit you have this problem, you know you can beat it but it is hard to know where to start and doing it unsupported is hard. Imagine yourself in a year's time, maybe four stone lighter. It can be done, focus on the big picture.

Get some help and I wish you all the best of luck.

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stealscandyfrombabies · 17/02/2007 13:06

I am just really embarrased to go to my GP or nurse because I know them very well out of work. I think I might have to just swallow my pride and go.

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stealscandyfrombabies · 17/02/2007 13:06

thank you for posting btw.

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Kbear · 17/02/2007 13:10

Right, you have to think what is more embarrassing? Being hugely overweight this summer or facing your gp? Come on, you know you can do it. Imagine in two months time you could have lost two stone. You can do it you just need help, focus and a fridge full of healthy alternatives!

Make a bet with yourself. Say by May bank holiday you will have lost a stone. Start tomorrow. Think of it as the enemy and you are strong, you can beat it. Don't let it beat you. Take small steps, if you have a bad day, make the next day a good one. Come on. Do it.

(I don't work for WW by the way, but I do know about eating crap for the sake of it, like most women do!).

Pep talk over.

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stealscandyfrombabies · 17/02/2007 13:16

thanks kbear - I appreciate your pep talk I will go to GP on Tuesday.

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pindy · 17/02/2007 13:18

Good luck - going to the GP is the first step and maybe the hardest - but congratulations for taking that first step.

If people know then they can help you.

X

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stealscandyfrombabies · 17/02/2007 13:22

thanks pindy

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MakemineaGandT · 17/02/2007 13:35

Good luck SCFBabies - it isn't inevitable that you are going to slide into more and more overeating and end up huge - the important thing to remember is that this is WITHIN YOUR CONTROL. I'm not sure what you will gain by seeing the gp (unless you really don't have any idea of what healthy eating entails and need his help in determining a diet?). I feel awkward saying it, but you just need to exercise some more self control - you CAN do it, so just make a start. If you get through one day eating normally that will be a big achievement and you can take it day by day from there (and the odd lapse doesn't matter by the way - as long as you pick yourself up and get back to normal the next day). Good luck!

FrannyandZooey · 17/02/2007 13:38

What happened to Greeny's support thread for eating problems? Would it be useful if she could resurrect it for you?

It seems fairly obvious that you are miserable and need some sort of help. The weight is not the issue, it is your unhappiness.

Kbear · 17/02/2007 17:23

GP can advise you in many ways regarding weight. He can test you for thyroid problems which might make it harder to lose weight for example. He can also give you access to reduced price gym membership - there is a health-start programme in our area, there might be in yours.

Talking to a medical professional about the implications of being overweight might also be the shock factor you need to give you the impetus to lose weight.

We all know self control is the answer to successful weight loss BUT sometimes you need spelled out in black and white the implications if you don't lose weight.

Go for it.

sweetbean · 17/02/2007 17:37

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Good luck i have no will power either !!!!!

lulumama · 17/02/2007 17:40

cognitive behavioural therapy can be really good to help deal with overeating, and the low self esteem...

don;t be ashamed ...lots of people struggle with their weight...

overeating can be rooted in deeper issues, and can be worth getting to the bottom of them

make sure you don;t get in the trap of thinking of food as good or bad, or 'i will not eat chocolate ever again', need to get a better relationship with food , all food...x

roseylea · 17/02/2007 17:43

Well done for posting this.

Just wanted to add my support really.

ernest · 17/02/2007 17:43

the obvious thing is that eating loads of eg toast just makes you crave even more.

I think you need to tackle why you feel so down in the first place, which is a separate issue to food.

With regards to the food problem, I'd highly recommend
this book It really is excellent, not just for bringing eating under control, but self esteem, and nutritional information,

and also this not just as a diet book, but more for a very interesting insight into over eating, glycemic index, nutrition. It was written by a cardiologist, so not a quack/fad diet despite the name. Even if you didn't do the diet, you'll learn a lot, but it's written in a very approachable and understandable and understanding way. I hope they might help you, and your gp.

sorry you're so down, wishing you all the best.

don't feel ashamed. really.

fizzbuzz · 17/02/2007 17:46

Are you on any medication that makes you overeat?

3andnomore · 17/02/2007 18:04

YOu mention you have used calsses, but did you tend to stay for the meetings or just get weight and go....I find the support you can get from a class is amazing...done WW and SW and loved both...

moondog · 17/02/2007 18:06

stealscandy,why don't you check out the Big MoFos thread which has been running weekly for about 40 weeks?

It seems that the women on that are hugely supportive of each other.

marthamoo · 17/02/2007 18:13

One of my friends was in a similar position to you - she finally plucked up courage to see her GP who referred her to a dietician. It wasn't an overnight 'fix', by any means, and she's had lapses along the way, but she saw the dietician, once a week, for over a year - and she eventually lost nine stone. She said the day she bought her first pair of jeans was one of the proudest in her life and that being able to take her two sons to the park and actually keep up with them and enjoy running around with them was the most fantastic feeling ever.

You can do it - and I think talking to your GP is a very good, very positive first step.

fireflyfairy2 · 17/02/2007 18:18

Why don't you have a read of all the slimming club threads, & decide which one might suit you best?

I have done ww & sw..currently on sw & find it the easiest of the both, no foods are banned, & they have so many free foods there is never any reason to be hungry. The thing I fiund restricting about ww was that after your 18 points were ate [or more depending on weight] you have nothing left, unless SF jelly. On sw all the fruit is free on both original & green days. On Orginal days you can have all the meat you can eat free [plus other things] & on a green day you can have pasta & rice etc free.... & can eat as much as you want!!

brimfull · 17/02/2007 18:22

Well done for asking for help and btw we all steal candy from babies

I think you're probably a sugar/carb addict and can't get off the viscious cycle of cravings and binges.
Once you wean yourself off the sugar you'll find the cravings and thinking about food will stop .I followed the clark plan and would thoroughly recommend it.
good luck with whatever you do and you know we're all here to offer you support.

fussymummy · 17/02/2007 18:34

I understand your struggle only too well.

Have always been big myself.

Did Weight Watchers many years ago and lost 5 stone 7pounds.

Due to lots of different reasons, this weight and more piled back on!!!!

Last month i started cambridge diet and in 5 weeks i've lost 27lbs.

If you want to CAT me please feel free, and good luck with whatever diet you choose.

2nervesleft · 17/02/2007 19:49

Don't feel bad about taking your kids sweets we alldo it. You are saving them from themselves. Good luck with your weight loss, I'm sure once you have made your mind up to change then you have taken the biggest step.

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stealscandyfrombabies · 17/02/2007 23:10

gosh! so much advice and support! Thanks you all very much for taking the time to post on this. I really appreciate it. I am going to go ahead with my visit to the GP and hope that maybe he can refer me to talk to someone and maybe be weighed every so often. I realise that my self esteem probably has a lot to do with it and agree completely that I am a sugar/carb addict! I was seeing a CPNurse a while back for PND and the weight definitely began to pile on when I stopped so might need to start talking to someone again. Thank you all for your support and well wishes. x

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fireflyfairy2 · 19/02/2007 20:52

Did you go the GP today scfb?

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