dh having the snip - what to expect

[jelliebelly]

will he be able to drive himself home? how long should I expect him to require sympathy for? can I say yes to my work christmas lunch that day and leave him to cope on his own?

any advice appreciated..

I wouldn't expect him to drive himself home, he'll be sore.

Fine to leave on his own that night, as long as he's not having to look after children?

I have my DH a day of TLC, cups of tea etc, then he was fine.

Every bloke I know who's had it done has driven himself home. Yes he can be left on his own, just depends on what age the kids are etc?

DH was almost in shock afterwards for want of a better description. He was a bit sore but mostly just poleaxed and he slept the whole afternoon. He certainly wouldn't have been able to drive. The next morning he was much better though and after 72 hours, aside from some impressive bruising he was back to normal.

Just asked DH, as it was a while ago, but he said they recommend you don't drive yourself home. I picked him up.

He can be a bit of a wimp (by his own admission!) so guess I'd better plan to drive him home. Kids are 11 and 7 so if I go out I'd better get dm to collect from school I think!

Yeah, be a bit nice to him, poor lamb and resist the urge to compare to childbirth/c-section i didn't

Already failed on that point!

I remember when my dad had the snip (no idea why it was such a big event in our house ) and he certainly couldn't drive home. He had to stay in overnight (he bleeds like a fountain) and I remember my mum picking him up from the hospital and making a fuss of him.

Dh had his nearly 2 weeks ago. Definitely wouldn't have been up for driving after (and not medically fit to either!). I would say he seemed quite traumatised actually. He was quite ginger and sore for a good couple of days. Days 1 and 2 were the extent of my sympathy. When he disappeared for a nap due to being a bit uncomfortable on day 5 I was less than impressed! (We have a newborn and I do all the night care).

DH wasn't allowed to drive him (he had it under general).

Very sore, needed lots of ice bags, ibroprofen and a comfy place to sit.

My sympathy was pretty much zero I'm afraid. The words "try doing it 3 times, bleeding for 6 weeks after with no sleep for a year after and then come back to me for sympathy eh?" Might have been said. But I'm a cah and DH was meant to get the snip after DC2 (though dc3 is much loved obviously she was still unexpected).

My EXH found it horrendously painful afterwards, and he's no wimp. He couldn't drive.

I think we should perhaps not take it so lightly. I watched it, it's not nice. Anyway took dh weeks and weeks to recover. The anaesthetic didn't work. Still has pain now.

anything from just being "sore" and a quick recovery, to long lasting pain and multiple surgeries that may not alleviate that pain.

For 90% of men it's fine, certainly within 3 weeks and many within 3 days.

It's not remotely comparable to childbirth (a necessity for having DC) but a voluntary procedure such as tubal ligation (and the level of risk is higher than often perceived for males, and lower for females given modern surgical techniques).

Tight pants, plenty of OTC painkillers and rest (certainly if there is excessive bruising/swelling until it subsides). And get him straight a GP if there are any signs of infection.

If there is significant pain (or any other major symptom) that lasts more than 3 weeks, or which has delayed onset but then persists, then again to GP as soon as possible. Further surgery may be required. And if full blown PVPS they can offer some treatments (including de-nerving) but they don't always work, sadly.

I drove dh home. A day or two of rest I think for him.

Thanks all - dh more than happy to have it done but I'm concerned about how much he may have underestimated recovery. He's telling me to go to work and he'll drive home etc but I'm even less convinced now!

There's men that go and play golf straight from the op apparently. To aide a good recovery I think he should have feet up for 2 days. His balls will be black. Dh had a hole in his sack for ages too. Apparently normal!

I went with Dh and even watched the op, lol. I drove him home and gave him TLC for the rest of the day and I'm certainly no nurse! Lol

I think he could've been left alone, hard to remember really.

Plan for the worst, hope for the best! Everyone needs at least a bit of fuss after an op. Good luck.

Driving home is not advised - though in practice many men do (the local won't have worn off). But if you can run to a taxi fare that would be better.

DH was fine on the day of the OP, only needed OTC painkillers for 2-3 days, had an easy weekend (do keep DC off his lap!) and was back at work (desk job) on Monday. Most men are fine, but it is worth making sure he does take it easy in the immediate aftermath, because overdoing it then (before it hurts!) can make pain worse/longer.

Oh god I'm definitely not watching! I will however go with him and drive him home. Fingers crossed he's in the 90% that make a quick recovery!

I thought I was going to sit in the waiting room; at the last second he changed his mind and wanted me in there!!! I accidentally saw more than I thought I would

Do you know which technique they'll be using?

Because if it's cauterisation, there's the smell of lightly fried bollock. Something like Vicks or Tiger Balm round the nostrils might be a good precaution.

Lol at lightly fried bollock!