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child 4 bump on head, ok to keep off school 2morro?

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pirategirl · 11/02/2007 21:42

HI,
my dd fell smack on her head today on a slippy floor in a swimming pool eating area.

She has an egg! Was v shaken up, and I have decided to keep her at home 2morro, as she does PE on mondays, and was scared with them all runnin about, to hurt her egg lump again.
She's been complaining of headache.

Do you think it will be ok to keep her off this once?

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bandstand · 11/02/2007 21:50

yeah why not

edam · 11/02/2007 21:53

Yes, if you want to but equally would be OK to send as long as she isn't obviously ill.

Has she vomited? Has she seemed drowsy at all (obv. it's now nearly ten, but earlier)? Worth looking up the NHS Direct website and checking out the things you should look for when a child hits its head.

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pirategirl · 11/02/2007 21:55

she hasnt been sick, she's just a bit sorry for herself, and tbh, i feel sorry for her feeling sorry!!

Dunno, I guess she should go, but I'm on my own with her, and I feel like she needs some tlc.

silly me.

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edam · 11/02/2007 22:07

Not silly at all, it's one of those things where it's up to your personal preference. Bet she would love some tlc! (My mum was harsher, but only because I managed to bang my head so often I'd have barely been there if she had kept me off every time.)

pinkbubble · 11/02/2007 22:10

I personally would send her unless she is ill tonight, but if she is ok tonight have a quiet word with teacher telling them that she had a fall and please would they keep an eye on her- Im sure they would be happy to

cat64 · 11/02/2007 22:29

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bandofgold · 11/02/2007 22:30

if it is a really big egg and bit of TLC won't hurt though, at 4 does she go allday?

pinkbubble · 11/02/2007 22:41

I seriously think if DD is OK tonight then truly as a decent parent you should send her to sch. Im all for keeping them off if they are ill but if she sleeps well its up to you to show her the rights and wromgs of why you are making her go or keeping her off1 I recently had DD3 tell me she wasnt well enough for sch- i was unsure as previous wk had DD1 off- i told her she would hwve to stay in bed all day and not go to dance to which she agreed, so I thought she must be ill! It turned out she wasnt but she learnt a lesson that day not to do it again- TBH it broke her heart and mine but i dont think she will do it ever again. You as an adult have a power over your child in showing them the right route to sch. show her by sending her and letting the teacher know!

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Anisse · 11/02/2007 23:39

Course it's ok pirategirl.

I understand that if you bump your head and get an egg that's a good sign.

I am a softie and would keep her off school, she will probably have a headache still anyway. She's only tiny.
Learning bad habits indeed ! What Mum says is law !

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pirategirl · 12/02/2007 21:17

hi,
Well dd wasn't ill as such, didnt pretend to be either, but was in pain, and upset.spent all day avoiding 'the bump', it is a whopper.
We had a nice quiet day inside, and will be back in school tomorrow. She is looking forward to it.

thanks for the advice.

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bandofgold · 12/02/2007 21:20

no half term for you btw?

fishpie · 12/02/2007 21:24

Glad DD was ok! But to be completely honest you seemed to of made up your mind you were not sending her in before you even posted!!! Schooling is very important and shouldnt be taken light hearted, fair enough theres only you and her, but to keep her off because she bumped her head and wasnt ill IMO You were wrong not to send her and what messages is this giving to your DD?

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pirategirl · 12/02/2007 22:06

Guess i had decided, it was my personal choice, but as i was on my own with her, and it was late last night, i was looking for other opinions.

I am a 'decent' parent even tho i didnt send her in , as she was in pain, and a playground full of 4-6 yr olds wasnt something i wanted her to encounter. Yes I know
'Schooling is very important and shouldnt be taken light hearted', that is why I felt it worthwhile to post about it, because obviously i wasnt sure i should keep her home, in light of the fact she wasn't in bed with a fever or puking up everywhere.

I have given her the message that i cared she was in pain. IMO. I have taught her that I put her first.
Like I do every day.

Uptight, me, no. just amazed, at the seriousness of some of you ladies.

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Anisse · 12/02/2007 22:14

Oh fishpie lighten up!
In Sweden they dont start school til they are 7 !!!

Anisse · 12/02/2007 22:15

Pirategirl good for you! Most of us would do exactly the same.

misdee · 12/02/2007 22:16

if she was my daughter and still in pain, then i would've kept her off as well and given regular painkillers.

hopefully the pain eases off overnight and she feels better tomorrow. head bumps can be very sore and make you feel sick, i whacked the bridge of my nose recently an i felt awful for days til lthe bruising went down aqs there was a lot of pressure there.

bandofgold · 12/02/2007 22:17

well i think you are right pirategirl, and i was thinking how my mum would have behaved. i fell off my bike whn i was a child, had big egg and had a week off school, at least that is how i remember it..

fishpie · 12/02/2007 22:22

Thing is we are not in Sweden but England!!!! I do take parenting very seriously as I have 3 DC and it is up to me to show them what is right etc. I do know the laws regarding children being in school before they are 5, but imo if they are meant to be in school then so be it! Most schools are very understanding and im sure if Pirategirl explained to teacher they would of been more than happy to of kept an eye on her! Probably kept her in at play time too. I actually work in a reception class and well a ware of all the trouble schools get for not having 100% attendance and I can honestly say that this could of been avoided!

cheeryface · 12/02/2007 22:24

i think you did right. my ds fell on his head once and ended up with concussion a while after so i would be more inclined to keep an eye on her for a day like you did.

fishpie · 12/02/2007 22:28

I have always been led to believe if the bump on your childs head comes out(like an egg) then its good Its when it goes in then you should worry!

Anisse · 12/02/2007 22:30

So fishpie, you are more concerned about your school getting into trouble with your numbers than the wellbeing of a small child?

If I were you, I would be more concerned about your grammar than your numbers!
'Could have been avoided?'

colditz · 12/02/2007 22:33

frankly, the school and their attendance figures can nob off as far as I am concerned.

bandofgold · 12/02/2007 22:35

exactly colditz.
btw i am so hungrey when i see your name fishpie

LemonTart · 12/02/2007 22:39

pirategirl - glad she is feeling a lot better and is really positive about going back to school. After all has been done and dusted - those are the only two things that count. Making those types of calls are never black and white, who am I to comment on bump worthiness of absence? I taught for years and am well aware that some days off are beneficial for a wide range of reasons other than just strict health ones - also well aware that some days off can be an educational disaster. Can?t make sweeping judgements about this type of thing. Only you know the full picture

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