Real dilemma - what do I do?

[musica]

Ds has been sick this afternoon - really sick, in Asda of all places (mm, nice). He seems ok in himself, but has been sick 2 or 3 times more. Dd was sick 2 days ago, but was absolutely fine the next day. I'm pretty sure it's the same thing (they both bizarrely had hiccups at the same time as being sick!). The dilemma I have is that it's ds' birthday party tomorrow - do I still have it, or do I cancel? Ds is DESPERATELY looking forward to it, and there isn't an obvious time we could postpone it to, but on the other hand, I don't want him to be feeling ill during the party, or be unable to enjoy it. Any advice? He would be devastated if we cancelled. Thanks!

I'd have it still especially if he's well enough to want it iyswim.

oh dear musica, what a sh-t position to be in. i wouldn't cancel yet. wait and see how he is during the night and in the morning then make a decision. fingers crossed that he sleeps well and wakes up feeling 100% and ready to party.
how old is he? if you do have to cancel tell him you've decided to do his aprty another day when he's well enough to enjoy it. i wouldn't let him be party to the decsion as he'll want to go ahead.
fingers crossed you don't get to that point tho.

musica, I wouldn't cancel yet, either. Parents will be very understanding if you cancel at the last minute for an illness.

Of course, you should say "DS is sick and vomiting, but would love to have his party. I don't want X to get sick, so we're calling everyone and effectively cancelling. But if you'd still like to come, DS would love it." Or something to that effect. Depends on how good of friends you are with the other mum.

Hate to say this, but I'd take my kids if the mum still felt her child was well enough to enjoy it but worried about the other childern. Kids get sick. I'd rather mine caught it doing something enjoyable.

he's going to be 3. I think I'm leaning towards having it, but I'll see how the night goes, see if he's sick again. He's looking very peaky, but that's probably because he's got no food inside him now. Thanks for the advice...I'll let you know how it turns out.

Well he's sleeping peacefully now - keep your fingers crossed he isn't sick again!

I wouldn't cancel either musica, I'd just hope he's better in the morning. Maybe you could warn people just to give them the option of not coming but since it doesn't sound serious make it clear to them that you don't think it is. I do hope he is better - happy birthday to him!

Well it's too late to do anything this evening. He's just been sick again though.

Oh musica, what a shame. I hope that's it for the night and he manages to have his party. Happy birthday to the poor little chap anyway!

Hope he's shaken off the sickness bug by the time he wakes up. These things often disappear fast IME. I too would not have cancelled the party. Hope all goes well.

Oh I want to cry - He finally fell asleep last night saying 'birthday party', but has continued being sick, and dh and I have joined him in being sick! So we've just got to cancel, and he's going to be SO upset. Thanks for your advice everyone.

Sorry to hear this musica. When ds was 6 we had booked a playarea for his whole class for a party and he got conjunctivitis. He was disappointed and we took him out to tgi fridays with a couple of friends when it had cleared.

CAn you reschedule for another day, Musica (2 weeks time?) ? And buy him a special treat just for today (and buy yourself one, for that matter!).
Definitely party is out if you're sick, too!

Oh no musica! Hope you all feel better soon. Agree with zebra, tell him it's fine, you can have it next Sunday instead (or whenever).

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Well, I think ds is on the mend - he has perked up a bit. Dh and I both feel terrible - really bad headaches, still feeling really sick. I feel like I'm going to faint whenever I stand up. We're taking it in turns to be downstairs with the children, or in bed. Dd has had a terrible day.

Ds was really sad about the party, but we're going to have it another day, and he understands that, and we gave him one of his birthday presents early, because it was a DVD, so he has spent the whole day on the sofa watching the telly.

Thank you for your good wishes everyone!

Oh musica, really feel for you. It's awful when you catch a bug off the kids isn't it? Especially when they are just bouncing back with renewed energy.

I hope you're all feeling loads better really soon, and can celebrate his birthday in style.

That is miserable news, especially on such a sunny day. Hope you are all feeling better very soon, musica.

musica, as people have said if you cancel at the last minute - parents would understand.
Also children are remarkable at making quick recoveries.
I would wait as long as possible before cancelling.
Hope it works out ok.

sorry misread your last post that started with ds on the mend.

Well, we're better. Just a little fragile now. And we've managed to find another day for the party, so ds is looking forward to that. Thanks everyone for your messages, and thank you JJ for your email. That was really sweet. Ds is full of beans again, and is in an astonishingly good mood, which I am making the most of.