I need to cry

[ghengis]

My GP has changed the AD I take from Cipramil to Venlafaxine and although I don't feel the black cloud of depression I really need a good blub. My family and DH do not want to hear/ see this so I need to do it while they are at school/work.

Has anyone else felt like this and what do you suggest? TIA

Gosh, massively out of my depth here as I have never taken AD but I sometimes feel the need for a cry and on those occasions have one, like you, when no-one is around.
Has something triggered this, or is it general depression you are feeling?
You are not alone.

They don't want to hear it? Tough! They are supposed to support you! DH at least if the kids are too young.

However, you can set aside a time each day when you 'allow' yourself to wallow in a good cry. I've done this when I was a single mum with two little kids, so they didn't have to see it. It worked for me.

Big hugs Ghengis.

Hi Ghengis - I've been feeling like that for the past few weeks. If you are anything like me, you'll be worried you can't stop once you start!

But.... the cliche is true... better out than in! So go for it. I find it particularly satisfying in the shower when the water can wash away the tears without me rubbing my eyes. That way nobody else need know you've had a good cry.

Not that I think you should hide away, but I do understand that sometimes you need to be on your own to do that.

Hope you feel better soon.

Have a good cry if it helps. I am in the horrible situation where I need to cry, but it is like all my emotions are stuck in my stomach. It is really frustrating. Poor you with no support. My DH may have many bad points (), but he is really good at being nice when I feel down. I do feel for you. Feel free to have a moan to us, or me if you want to contact me direct. I'm good at email listening!

Thanks all . I have had depression for 2 years now and DH has been wonderfully supportive throughout. If I let him see me cry he'll think the worst and worry. I haven't felt like this before, i.e. just sad, rather than Depressed. It's hard to explain.

Toothache, thanks for the shower tip!

Ghengis - You don't need to explain, I think I know where you're coming from: an inexplicable need to just sob. I think most women get that feeling at some point in their monthly cyle, but when you've had depression I know how hard it can be to distinguish between feeling like a good cry and feeling REALLY down.

Have you had your shower yet?

Hi ghengis - it could be just your body getting used to the new ad. I know when ive been up and down on my dose of seroxat once the real black clouds had lifted I would get this feeling of real sadness - not depression (if this makes any sense at all).

Chinchilla - i cant remember if you are still on AD's at moment (?) but I also find it very difficult to cry when on a full dose of AD's - almost like the tears wont come.

Understand totally the thing about not wanting to cry in front of others. From what youve written I imagine that when youve been at your lowest you haevnt been able to stop yourself breaking down in front of DH etc which when things get desperate is v hard for them too. My DH isnt particularly sympathetic and finds the whole thing v diffcult - and I know that if Im back to having any king of control over my emotions then i try and minimise the effects on others.

I think all the old cliched things are useful. Listening to a piece of music that brings you to tears. Thumping a pillow and then crying into it etc etc etc. Anything just to give yourself a good 'clear out'. Hope things a bit better today!!
Kizziex