Found out today that the DH of a friend who's been there for me anytime I've needed her....

[fannyannie]

since firstly discovering that I was pg (unplanned) with DC3 and with the near break-up with my DH has cancer .

He lost the sight in one eye several years ago due to cancer and about 2/3 weeks ago had a lump removed from his head. They found out this week it's malignant.

Felt so awkward not knowing really what to say.

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Don't say anything. Let him talk, you listen.

The most important thing is to say SOMETHING I would have thought (the amount of friends vanshed when we had Dh ill was incredible- and he was deffo getting better). I would phone, just say I'm really sorry to hear the news and take it from there.

You might also want to take a look on her behalf at the Macmillan webite, check she's getting the help they need. (their grants are fab and not as well known about as the nurses- and they have an info line too that you could give her the number of).

But just calling is the most important thing.

Sorry, I didn't mean don't get in touch. What I meant was, ring or call, say how are you doing, and then shut up and let him talk. When my friend's ds died I kept thinking I could say something to make it better. It was only when I realised I couldn't, and what she needed was for me to sit and listen, that I was of any use.

Oh, sorry, it's your friend's dh. Sit and let her talk. Or both.

And look after yourself too...