Bedwetting dilemma - have I done the right thing?

[Katymac]

DD (9) has been bedwetting for 2yrs now - it seemed to start over a bullying problem at school & now is just "the way things are"

We have seen the enuresis nurse and done sticker charts, targets for drinks and over some months have started the following months low medication and then higher medication. This has had varying degrees of success.

She is now using the amount she drinks as a form of control (ie her not drinking is the control she has over the situation??I am not explaining that well)& the lack of drinking is causing problems with the medication.

So I spoke to the nurse today & we have agreed that she is to come off the medication and we will no longer ask about how much/little she drinks or how often she wets (I will simply need to know when she needs more pull-ups/dry-nites) and we will not refer to the Bed wetting at all

Have I done the right thing or am I sticking my head in the sand.?

Since the bedwetting started because of a stressful situation it makes sense to take all the pressure of her. What you've been doing hasn't worked (completely) so you've got nothing to lose. If I was in you position I'd do the same as you.

On the actual bedwetting issue, try raising the foot end of her bed six inches or so. Weird tip (from my grandmother) - worked on my mum and my dd1. If it does work, can you let me know. Have posted this to a couple of people and am interested if it works for people not related to me!!

Good luck - you can always reassess the situation in a couple of months if no improvement.

as a former bed wetter I must admit it sounds good. By doing that you are giving her back her dignity. Perhaps also a strategy in case of leaks that she just strips the bed and puts the stuff straight in the machine, even encouraging her to do that on bed changing day anyway so it isn't obvious iyswim?

Daft question but she doesn't have worms? It can cause bed wetting due to irritation of the urethra.

I'll try the end of the bed thing in a couple of weeks

I have dosed her with the worming tablets a couple of times - in case. I might do it again, even tho I haven't seen any worms as such

I'm hoping the removal of restrictions will make her feel more in control

Sorry about the name change

i think that sounds like a great idea...##does that mean if she isnt wet she reuses her dri night thing? cause other wise surely you would no based on how many are in a pack!

She has gone from wetting every night to wetting 3-5 nights - if she's dry - she reusews her dry-nite again so unless I ask each day I can't keep track of them

Going thro' her room seems a bit rude - but if she won't tell me Ihave no option