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does this sound like dyspraxia? (adult)

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pigeonpoo · 23/03/2016 00:16

This isn't me, it's someone close I get impatient and exasperated with because they always seem clumsy and careless and socially a bit of a misfit (though they certainly don't feel any of those things) they're not going to get a diagnosis because they'd never think anything was unusual about them or be willing to consider it. I suppose it would just make it easier for me to be more patient if I could put a genuine reason for why they're like they are. Iv stumbled across dyspraxia and a lot sounds familiar but not all, so I copied and pasted the symptoms of a website and deleted all that I couldn't recognise in this person

With what's left - could they still have dyspraxia? Is it likely?

As I say there won't be any diagnosis, it would just help me be more forgiving I think

Gross motor co-ordination skills (large movements):
Poor balance
Poor posture
Difficulties with driving a car
Lack of rhythm when dancing, doing aerobics
Clumsy gait and movement. Difficulty changing direction,
Tendency to fall, trip, bump into things and people
Fine motor co-ordination skills (small movements)
Difficulty using tools and domestic implements, locks and keys
Difficulty with dressing and grooming activities, such as putting on makeup, shaving, doing hair, fastening clothes and tying shoelaces
Speech and language:
No symptoms
Eye movements:
Tracking. Difficulty in following a moving object smoothly with eyes without moving head excessively.
Poor relocating. Cannot look quickly and effectively from one object to another (for example, looking from a TV to a magazine)
Perception (interpretation of the different senses):


Lack of awareness of body position in space and spatial relationships. Can result in bumping into and tripping over things and people, dropping and spilling things
Little sense of time, speed, Leading to difficulties driving,
Inadequate sense of direction. Difficulty distinguishing right from left means map reading skills are poor
Learning, thought and memory:
Poor memory, especially short-term memory. May forget and lose things
Unfocused and erratic. Can be messy and cluttered
May do only one thing at a time properly, though may try to do many things at once
Slow to finish a task. May daydream and wander about aimlessly
Emotion and behaviour:
Difficulty in listening to people, Can be tactless, interrupt frequently. Problems with team work
Difficulty in picking up non-verbal signals or in judging tone or pitch of voice in themselves and or others. May listen but not understand
Tendency to be erratic ñ have ‘good and bad days’
Tendency to opt out of things that are too difficult
Emotions as a result of difficulties experienced:
Tend to get stressed,
emotional outbursts, and addictive behaviour

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to0thypeg · 24/03/2016 12:07

I'm about to hide this thread, because it offends and upsets me. I've had a diagnosis for almost 40 years now, have had every treatment on the planet, and am still as clumsy, as socially inept and as lacking in self-awareness as the day I was diagnosed.

But before I leave: OP, I think you need to ask yourself - what do you want from your family member? It sounds as though, basically, you'd quite like it if he/she would check into a continental euthanasia clinic. Wouldn't you be better off just going NC?

pigeonpoo · 24/03/2016 12:10

Toothypeg you've entirely misunderstood the point of my thread. But please do hide it if it offends you.

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PollyPerky · 24/03/2016 14:12

Not really sure what you hope to gain from a diagnosis for your own benefit? If it helps you to label this person then go ahead. If they were diagnosed with MH or personality disorders then telling us that at the start would have helped.

pigeonpoo · 24/03/2016 15:42

Yeah, I started off trying to be vague and then it went off track with things being suggested that are definitely ruled out. I was trying to demonstrate its not that I haven't grasped there being a cross over - I am fairly certain there has been enough screening that Aspergers would have been picked up if that was the case.

Logfire summed it up very clearly what I want, better than I have explained when she said:

If I was finding a family member really difficult and bothersome, it WOULD make it easier for me to be patient with them if I knew that they couldn't help the way they behaved.

I don't get the impression that you want the family member to do anything/get diagnosed; it's more that it will help YOU to be more understanding of stuff that's driving you mad.

(I wonder if their MH issues have been compounded by having undiagnosed dyspraxia and being critiscised for something they couldn't actually help by their parents basically.)

But the question remains whether they do have dyspraxia or not, as there won't be a diagnosis to confirm it or rule it out. Hence me asking if it sounds like dyspraxia after having stumbled across the condition and wondering if there's more to this persons difficulties than the family has been aware of.

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