Feel strange

[BlossomHill]

I just wondered if anyone can relate to how I have been feeling recently. Both of my children are at full-time school (only just recently) and I feel really weird. I have no enthusiasm for anything. Cannot concentrate, even finding it hard to sit and have the concentration to do the kids homework, play with them, dinner, housework etc I flit from one thing to another rather aimlessly and feel pretty useless (seeing as I have the whole day to do things), I can hardly have a conversation as my concentration at the moment is so bad. Posted about St John's Wort but not sure if this is what I need. I just know that I cannot go on like this, I need to do something about it but don't know what! TIA

Could be grief for the change in your circumstances. Maybe you need to redifine your role or how you see yourself is tehre something you could in the day, college or a volunteer position or something to give you a bit of a lift

Hi Blossom,
I have days like this, but they are isolated.
St John's Wort may help but if you are clinically depressed, I think you would be better off seeing your GP so you can get the appropriate help and drugs - SJW interacts with other things you may be taking, and it also can make you photosensitive, which is not good at the moment, with the sunshine!

However, I wonder if the way you are feeling is down to the lack of structure in your day now? When I have a "lazy day", I tend to end up feeling like you describe. I would suggest you make plans for each day, however mundane these may be, and include at least one trip out of the house each day.

It might be as basic as Monday shopping and post office, Tuesday clean upstairs and library, Wednesday ironing and buy new vests, whatever, but if you have specific plans for the day, like a timetable if you will, I think you might find you begin to feel better very quickly

Lisa

Thanks Lisa, I do get out a lot and have lots of friends that I meet up with for lunch etc but it's still not enough. I have a problem getting a job as my children go to 2 different schools as my dd has special needs. I have loads of housework, washing, ironing to do but it's just getting motivated to do it. I look at the ironing and then just think I will do it tomorrow. I was going to the gym but even that I can't get in the mood to go. I just hate the fact that I hardly have the energy to do things with my children. Don't get me wrong they are well loved and cared for and they do get attention it's just that I find it hard and not as enjoyable as I should.

Blossom - I felt very much like this when my ds started school in 2001. It really shocked me as I was actually looking forward to having time for myself. Although I was working I decided to change my job which I did and just the fact that I had to turn in for work as I was new really gave me the lift I needed. Hope you feel better soon. xx

Have you been to your Gp it may be a physical thing such as hormone imbalance or something that is making you feel like this

Isn't it a sort of "empty nest" syndrome?

Hmm, I think you should see your GP - I just saw your SJW thread, but there are lots of different AD's - and you do need to give them a bit of time to get past the side effects, which can have quite an impact for a couple of weeks

I still think you should "schedule" your time - I know it sounds militant, but it will overcome this lethargy that you are beating yourself up about. And EVERYONE thinks like that about the ironing But I think its important that when you think, I can't be bothered to do the ironing / go to the gym / play with the children etc, that you MAKE yourself do it. You might find after a few days that you are beginning to feel a little more energetic and enthusiastic about life. And you have nothing to lose

Lots of luck

Thanks Lisa. I think you are right about seeing the gp. The thing is I hate that feeling of opening up to the doctor and will probably end up in tears. I can't carry on like this so will have to see how it goes. My whole life is just one big chore at the moment.