It's one thing after another, does it ever end ?

[Tillysmummy]

I am so fed up. My dd has had cold after cold the last 6 weeks, fell off her changing mat Monday and now has picked up a vile tummy bug so she has been being sick and diahorrea for the last 24 hours. I had to leave work early yesterday.

It seems she has been unwell for an age. She is 8 months old. Is this normal. When will it ever end ? The latest gastly virus she picked up from some supposed friends who came over at the weekend to see us and dh was playing golf with the husband. Their boy was sick and the mother exhausted and still they came. No call to say that he was sick and that he may pass his stomach upset to my dd. Just because the selfish bastard of a father wants to play golf. I am so pissed off with them. Do you think I'm being unreasonable ?

Exhausted, tearful and worried xx

Seems endless sometimes, doesn't it? We had a run like this in Jan/Feb with dd - it was one thing after another. Try and console yourself that all these colds may actually be doing your dd some good - did you see the reports this week that said that research shows that the more bugs small children are exposed to, the less likely they are to develop leukaemia? If this is true then my dd will be bombproof!

Tillysmummy, I definately don't think you are being unreasonable. If my two are ill then I keep them locked up at home until they are at a stage where they are not contagious any more.

I agree with Azzie, you will prbably find that all these illnesses are helping to build up your dds immune system, so stick in there!

Tillysmummy, no you're not being unreasonable. I have cried off many visits to friends when my daughter (22 months) just has a cold or some odd looking spots as I wouldn't want someone's child to be infected and even though many times I would have loved to have seen whoever it was to have an adult conversation!
If my daughter has any kind of illness, mild cold, whatever and I think she is still OK to see someone I always ring and check with the mother first and have never been offended if they said they'd rather avoid us!
I am in a similar position in that the girl that my daughter sees most often (we do lots of classes together) has just started nursery and has literally been ill since the day she started. OK, it's mostly been nasty colds but it means now that my daughter, previously quite illness free, picks up everything she has. I feel equally annoyed that she doesn't think that maybe I don't want to have an ill, grumpy, child. In defence of the nursery, I suppose mothers these days don't have the support networks they used to and can't have time off every time their child has a cold so obviously they go to nursery and pass it all around. I am just annoyed that my friend then doesn't think about giving it to my daughter and even moans about each various illness, at least I suppose I'm getting advance warning!
BTW, I wouldn't just blame the selfish father, I think the mother should have told him to shove his game of golf while she had a couple of hours sleep. I would of!!

Tillysmummy, I sympathise, it is so tiring when these things happen one after the other.

When dd was about 11/12 months she had one cold after another, high temperatures constantly etc etc. This went on for a few months, but touch wood, she seems to have grown out of it and is now rarely ill. Hopefully your dd will really boost her immune system this way and have a good long run of 'wellness' soon to give you both a break!

I don't think its possible to shield your kids from illness, if its a fairly minor tummy upset or a cold its probably better if she gets it now rather than later.

Try and have a relaxing weekend with no guests this time and hopefully you'll be feeling sunny again in no time!

My dd was like this at this age, once I stopped b/feeding she got every bug under the sun. Easily 1 or 2 a month for about 4 months. But as Azzie says, she's now 4 1/2 and has an iron constitution when everyone else is dropping around her. I know its really horrid when your in the middle of it and I'd probably feel the same about your friends. One thing I got that did help was "dopholis" powder from the health food shop, yoy put a bit in some water and it did seem to ease her symptons. Also junior echinecea helps to boost their natural immune system (check if suitable for under 1 yr), and homeopathic remedies helped too .Good Luck.

Thanks for all the messages and yes Janus you're right it's the mothers fault as well. She's too weak and never stands up to him and he's a real mcp bully. The other thing I think is terrible is that they dragged their poor baby out when he was ill.

My other friends and I always ring first and check before going to each other's houses and also that is when the babies are getting over it and not at their worst.

DD is asleep so finally some time to myself. I haven't been able to put her down all day poor thing. Every time she farts she cries (this will probably tickle some of you !) - I know it sounds funny but I feel so sorry for her.

We had to wait in the doctors surgery this morning for an hour and she was good as gold, just sat their looking very forlorn and cuddling her bunny rabbit.

Tilllysmummy, the not being able to put them down is very exhausting too, isn't it? (Try explaining to a hardworking dh that you are exhausted by sitting on the sofa all day!!) My dd (2.5 y.o.) still needs almost constant cuddling when ill, whereas ds (now 4.5) is now happiest tucked up under a blanket on the sofa with a nonstop flow of videos to watch and a copious supply of juice to drink - as long as Mummy mops his fevered brow in a suitably concerned manner every now and then, he's happy. So it does get a bit easier eventually.

Tillysmummy,

I can wholly sympathise. I think its quite normal, Ds 11months is ALWAYS ill. Several weeks of cold/cough and then sickness. (Luckily he didnt have diarrhoea this time.) He also banged his head tonight and I was worried how I would recognise concussion when he was already sleepy and vomiting before the bump!
And what is worse - trying to clean a sicky carpet or trying to clean up sick that landed on the parquet and splashed in all directions.

I do try and keep him at home when he is ill so he doesnt spread the germs around - but obviously not everyone does as he is picking up the bugs from nursery.

Just remind yourself what a good immunity dd is building up.

Sympathy from here, too. I'm afraid it's par for the course for little ones to catch all these bugs but it does ease off eventually, so hang on in there!