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dh is ill

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PeachyIsNowAChristmasFruit · 15/12/2006 21:52

he's been off work a week, but worsened a lot- keeps losing his way
home from familiar places, went into the wrong garage to drop car off
today and swore to them it was the right one; has Btec national yet
needed help to spell 'MY' .......

I know that it is probably nothing, I also know that with the
symptoms of depression he has had in the past it could be something
bad. He can't get a GP appointment for a week (receptionist told him
it wasn't important enough- WTF? chap was in tears as it had take him
ages to get home from our usual supermarket 10 minutes away)

Going to insist on him getting an emergency appointment Monday.

Extra paranoid as my best amtes Mum was dx with dementia at DH's age
(35) and died at 39. But I know something isn't right: his hands have been horribl;e shaky for ages, he keeps forgetting entire conversations (thought it was rudeness tbh) and my instincts are telling me this isn't just a small thing.

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Pruni · 15/12/2006 21:54

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7swansaswimmingup · 15/12/2006 21:58

sorry to hear this peachy, sounds very worrying for you both, your poor hubby. hope you get that apt on monday and you get some answers or referred to someone else.x

Lio · 15/12/2006 22:00

Poor you and poor him Please press for urgent GP appt.

EllieHsMum · 15/12/2006 22:00

Peachy sorry to hear about dh. Best of health to you both.

poppiesinalinewithtinsel · 15/12/2006 22:01

sorry to hear that Peachy. Poor you and poor him. Hope the appointment on Monday goes well.

SpicymulledSheraz · 15/12/2006 22:02

Kepp us posted, sounds very worrying indeed.

JesusWasReallyWelsh · 15/12/2006 22:04

I wish I had some practical advice, but all I can offer is my prayers x

sunchowder · 15/12/2006 22:04

Oh Peachy, I hope you get an appointment quickly--especially around the holidays as it is...I can't imagine what it is really. I have a brother that suffers from a disorder that causes alot of those same symptoms when he doesn't take his medications (or the same dose stops working). He must be so upset and frustrated in himself. If he enjoys food, keep him satisfied with the simple things until the appointment. My brother was senstive and comforted by the smell of my cooking when he was at his worst.

whenevilgotstuckupthechimney · 15/12/2006 22:04

sorry to hear that peachy. try and push for an earlier appointment. hope all works out ok.

DeckTheHallsWithFRAUsOfHolly · 15/12/2006 22:05

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PeachyIsNowAChristmasFruit · 15/12/2006 22:05

Dh ahs told me now that he literally begged for an urgent appointment but was told to go away and wait a week.

Can a receptionist really do that??????

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santasdoingtheironing · 15/12/2006 22:07

Peacy I am not sur ethat I could wait until MON can you not contact NHS 24 and speak to someone

eggnog · 15/12/2006 22:09

huge sympathy and hugs. how worrying for you. i would take him to casualty asap to get him checked over. they cant turn away someone with serious symptoms like this.

Dottydotthehalls · 15/12/2006 22:10

Peachy - you could just turn up and demand to be seen? I'd at least be phoning them on Monday demanding to speak to the Practice Manager.

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PeachyIsNowAChristmasFruit · 15/12/2006 22:10

Can't do casulaty, we have three small kids at home, 1 asd, 1 being diagnosed at the moment and its late.

I think Monday will do, this has been building for months (maybe years if the depression is related as the NHS website suggests). But I will damned make sure they see him then.

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BuffysMum · 15/12/2006 22:15

Perhaps you could drop him off at casualty tom but it would be better if someone could go with him. This way he will hopefully get to see someone quicker than going to the gp who will presumably have to refer him to specialists to rule things out etc. Big hugs they are very scarey symptoms. If you have the energy please complain to practice manager about receptionist as she is not qualified to make those decisions.

MistleToo · 15/12/2006 22:18

Sorry to hear you're so worried about your dh, he does sound like he needs some help. Hoping for you both that it's something fixable.

christmas2NDTIMEmistletoenwine · 16/12/2006 08:26

Oh Peachy, what a worry!

Take him to your GP on Monday.

Insist on seeing a doctor. Refuse to move until you do.

Receptionists are little Hitlers over the phone, but if you take one on face to face they lose their magic powers!

Trust me, I'm an expert in breaking down obnoxious jobsworths.

If all else fails, threaten to report her to the senior GP.

Good luck.x

BudaBauble · 16/12/2006 08:32

Oh Peachy - sounds scary for you both. Your poor DH must be really worried.

Definitely take him on Monday - hope you get to seem someone. Would complain about the receptionist too.

jalopy · 16/12/2006 08:48

Peachy, take him to the surgery first thing on Monday. The receptionist can't turn him away. She's unqualified to assess him.

fairyfly · 16/12/2006 08:56

Could somebody watch the kids while you take him to the emergency Doctors? Good luck, it sounds terrifying.

DeckthehallsLaDiDaDi · 16/12/2006 08:58

Definitely take him to see your gp on Mon.

I wouldn't take him to a+e as in the circumstances it doesn't sound like it would be the right sort of environment to assess your dh.

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PeachyIsNowAChristmasFruit · 16/12/2006 13:44

Thanks everyone. He will be going to the GP tomorrow, luckily Welsh schools don't break up until the end of next week so not a massive problem for childcare.

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theartistformallyknownasJAM77 · 16/12/2006 14:30

Hope all goes well xxx

SpicymulledSheraz · 16/12/2006 19:32

Keep us posted Peachy. Good luck.

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