my partner doesn't wash his hands after the loo!

[GeorgiaT2468]

Hi all, Iv been with my partner several years now and we have children. I love this man but he has the most annoying habits. I'm quite a particular person when it comes to health and hygiene and very OCD in hand washing. My partner in the other hand doesn't share the same thoughts. Many times he doesn't wash his hands after using the toilet and will come out of the bathroom and touch things in our home, the children and food. I'm always on his case about this and eventually argue about it where he tells me to stop trying to control him and that he can do as he pleases ect.. It's really getting to me and when I need help doing things in the house I always do them so he doesn't touch anything!! It's annoying and unfair to everyone else that he's being dirty. Advice would be very much appreciated. Thank you xx

I worry simlondon that he would take me to court to see them as he took his ex to court. It breaks my heart because the kids adore him. The kids and I have a stronger connection and they are all mummy's boys which I love. But they do live their dad. My eldest loves him and he has already lost his biological dad and their family ect because of the abuse. He loves and trusts my partner. Do I really take him away from another family? How would if affect my children, I'm terrified of seeing my children hurt xx

I understand how you would worry about your children feeling hurt should you seperate, but in all honesty, they are seeing their mum constantly stressed because of your partner.
The atmosphere they are living in now must be having an affect on them

That's very true discodiva70. Although no matter what I don't let my children see me stressed. I cry to myself when they are in bed or on my break at work. My kids only see me smile and laugh. I don't subject them to arguments or atmosphere. If that ever happened in front of my kids I'd leave him no question about it. Children shouldn't be subject to that ever. Xx

I totally agree. I found this out about my boyfriend and I said he would have to leave my house if he did not go back and wash his hands. He bragged he didn't touch anything as used toilet paper to lift toilet seat lid and sat to pee (would he not still need to be touching things maybe ? I don't know. Whatever! It's more about touching things in the bathroom. It's something I have been brought up to do. I don't know why so many men think it's ocd. Also they will sit on public toilets to do #2 and use tp instead of avoiding that or squatting (throw some tp in there first so water doesn't splash up!) It makes it hard to be intimate with him knowing what I know and after I asked him to wash or leave he washed and then threatened to leave due to my controlling nagging criticism of him. It is crazy! He is totally obsessed with harmful chemicals in ingredients but he even has his soap he made for himself here so he could use that. So many men (probably more than I would want to know) are disgusting pigs in the disguise of being so neat (ironically!).

He sound a lazy knob and a man child.
I couldn’t put up with this and it would give me nightmares never mind ocd.
He’s a dirty dick if he doesn’t wash his hands.

How do people find these threads? some kind of crazy search? It's over 2 years old- zombie thread.

I searched because it just happened to me... searching for this crazy no wash behavior and found this thread- yeah he is exactly a man boy - immature as hell although he is young but that should not matter. He is not lazy - he is crazy- I think he's scared of using soap due to chemicals and drying his precious skin - well just wash your fingers you used to touch things with. It's not rocket science. And or use lotion but he is scared of all chemicals. I'm sure he could find something to his standards though.

this guy is an asshole - get rid of him-