ANOTHER pnd thread!!!

[charlieplus3]

Just got back from DS'S 7 month check and the HV went on more about me than him. Was feeling ok till did i her questioner which i scored really high and i thought i was doing alot better. Now i feel like S**T

Hey there charlie plus three! dont let it get you down too much! What matters is that you feel better. The Edingburh sacle is a very general tool, however its results are meant to give HV and idea of how you are coping (or not?) I scored really highly on the edingburgh sacle for about 12 months after DD and thought it would never improve. I felt like it was an exam that i had to pass and eventually just bluffed the answers!! however thats not a good plan and didnt do me any favours, I guess that if the score is high that something is bothering you? I know its tough but try and take some time out and spend some ime reflecting on what it is and how you can improve it? It will empower you and you will start to feel better !

Oh Charlie, after all the listening you did for me over my little brush with PND the least I can do is listen and help you with it.

Please mail me if you want to offload anything.

Chin up....

Thing is i cope really well, i think.Especially compared to how i was at first. She startd going on about three meals a day etc etc and also suggested a sad light as my mood dips quite alot if its bad weather. But at least im aware of this and can deal with it.

I also felt she made me out to be a bad mum as was going on about a parenting class on how to deal with toddler problems and said i shouldnt let Sophia play in my handbag incase she unzipped the part where my tablets are(painkillers). But i was watching her, i always do.

hi chalieplus3 - if you feel you are coping that is the main thing. I tend to stay away from my HV now as I feel she is always scrutinizing me!! I feel I am better than I was but pretty sure I would still get a high score, think even those without pnd that were coping with babies and toddlers on a regular basis could get a high score after a hard weeks slog of sleepless nights/tantrums/etc it can be really draining at the best of times. Are you on ad's ? if you don't mind me asking.

Im sure my score was only high because yes it has been a bad week, weather, stuck in the house and all that.

I am on Fluoxetine, but im aiming to be off when the 6 months are up. I excercise 3 times a week and im sure i can do it.I try and think posotive thoughts all the time.

I felt she brought me back down, so no i wont see her again. Theres no need to anyway as they wont want to see Ds for a while. And as for her parenting class, i get good advice on here and its not as if im a first time parent. My teenager is a great girl so im sure i can do it again.

Toddlers are meant to play up arnt they, shes 23 months for gods sake, its thier job!!!!

It's an HV's job to make you feel bad (sorry, any good ones - there must be some out there somewhere ) I think, as chloeb2002 pointed out, the Edinburgh Scale is such a general tool that it is very much dependent on how you are feeling about life at the time you take the test. If you know, honestly, in yourself, that you are feeling better and coping OK then sod the test.

You can't be on top of the world all the time: I'm very affected by the weather as well, and a week stuck inside won't have helped. Sounds like you're doing all the right things (especially exercise). You know yourself better than any HV or questionnaire.

Cheers Martha, Midden and Cloe and all. Its really good to hear such posotive words. I knew i wasnt going downhill.