Abusive ex. How long after events have happened is it too late to call police??

[juicychops]

Hi. My ex and i have been split for nearly a year we were together for 3 years. The first year he raped me 3 times but i stayed with him. (i know stupid but at the time its what i chose to do).
then the second year when i was 8 months pregnant he become violent and held me against the wall by my neck and locked me out in the rain.
the 3rd year he had just finished an affair and as i had just had a baby i was all over the place and stayed with him. The whole year he was very physically and verbally abusive kicking punching kicked me in the head and nearly nocked me unconcious. had to go hospital cos thought he had broken my wrist, puched me in stomach various times and and kicked me in legs.
I stayed as i was frightened of being alone. Anyway, the end of the 3rd year he had another affair and finally that was the end of it. He moved out.

Various probs have been going on with him seeing our son. In the year since he left he's seen him twice. His whole family hate me and blame me saying im stopping him from seeing his son but basically, he can not be bothered to. He lives and works 5 mins away from us!

I hate him and his family and i want nothing to do with any of them. They are all making my life hell and i wish i could move away but i cant.

But i just cant get over the things he has done to me in the past and really regret not reporting them at the times. How long is too long to do this??

i know there is no evidence and it would be his word against mine but i remember everything so clearly and i cant put it behind me. Im sorry if this is painful for some people but i need advice. I need to know if reporting it would get me anywhere and be worth it in the long run

i htink ti woudl look liek a malicious accusation if you reported it now tbh and if it got to a trial are theere witnesses on both sides who woudl contradict each other?

although i agree that you dont wwant a violent man to go unpunished

Thats whats worrying me about doing it. His mum and dad know bits of what has gone on as they where the ones i used to go to in floods of tears when he did these things. But they just ended up turning a blind eye saying im sure he didn't mean it!! But they obviously would stick up for him in court so it would be just me against all of them. Plus, yeah they would think it was malicious as there are also other seperate continuous problems going on at the moment with money etc.

He apparently punched his current girlfriend but he claims she did it herself to stitch him up. He had to go to court but i don't know what the outcome was

I think I would contact an organisation like rape crisis or a women's centre for advice or at the least maybe counselling would help, and a synpathetic ear for you would be good from what you say.

I think evidence would be difficult.