Scared given herpes to dd help feeling terrified

[breakfastfairy]

Im suffering from depression and terrified dd has caught herpes, she has had a cut like split on inner labia, took to doc but doc said just a cut ? it has cleared up but still looks sore along the crease, I have had sore bits myself before, never treated, no sure if I haveit. Been married twice 10 years and no problems there. I am feeling so desparate.. any ideas ? please help me x

Why do you think you have Herpes? Thrush can cause soreness as well. I think the first thing you need to do is to go to a clinic next time you are sore and get tested to find out what is making you sore. Secondly, the Dr would know or suspect herpes if he saw it, it's like a blister which has popped and not like a cut. Get yourself checked (am sure you will be fine) first and work this through from there.

This is not a blister on my dd it was more like along the inner crease ithad split open , truly horrible and bleeding. Imyslef have had this, but been too ashamed to do anything. I am eing treated for depression at the moment and this is one of the terrible worries that makes me feel desparate, guilty and not wanting to go on

Your doctor wouldn't have mistaken herpes for a cut - it's pretty distinctive.

Soreness on its own doesn't indicate herpes. There are a number of reasons why you might be sore, the GP can check them out and treat them. Get yourself checked out for your own peace of mind, but it's highly unlikely from what you've said that it's herpes. I think you should also tell the GP about your depression, if you haven't already - because I think this is where your concern is coming from.

and you can get spots anywhere, including the inner bits which can be sore, could this have been your sore bits?? I think you assume the dr would have known what it was so be re-assured.

maybe get a check just so that you can set your mind at rest, I'm sure you'll be fine.

oh, and just read the bit about depression - hope you are getting some good help....apparently this sort of worrying about health issues is INCREDIBLY common in people who are depressed or anxious. It's a focus for the feelings of worry and anxiety.

Your GP may have a counsellor who could give you some strategies for coping without focussing on these worries, please ask the GP about this.

My dd always seems to be poking and touching herself inside and scratching in her ladybits, this worries me. my depression is very bad at present and am on day 11 of ADs, Im on the depression threads at the moment and have had fantastic support whihc has really kept me hanging in, but my bad thoughts about my giving my dd some terrible disease is crippling me. The dr seemed unconcerned and said it looked like a split but Im unconvinced x

could it be eczema?

I thought with herpes you got flare ups of blisters

breakfastfairy, I really hope things improve for you very soon. I just want to re-iterate how you are not alone in doing this and you are right, it is just 'bad thoughts' - your depression makes you prey to these thoughts but it does not mean they are the truth.

You have NOT given your dd an awful disease. You're just seizing on the worst thing you can imagine, and because you are a loving nurturing mum the worst thing you can imagine is harming your dd in some way.

I really think you might benefit from a counsellor (my gp has one 'attached' that you can see at the surgery) and they can be good at helping you put your concerns in perspective and giving you other thoughts which can somewhat dilute the hold these worries get over you.

best of luck x

thanks for your support, that has helped a bit, thoof course I still have a fear that Im right ! I am in fact going this pm to docs for an interactive onthe computer CBT session, they cant supply a counsellor so quickly so this is a cyber one ! I suppose its worth a try, it will be a break as my parents are ocming to play with dd so i supose everyone benefits... hey was that a positive thought ! of course I may have gien her herpes, perhaps form my fingers to her ? or through breastfeeding, but I suppose I must remember that even if that is true, I doesnt mean I s hould end it all ?!