Nits: to tell or not to tell?

[SenoraPostrophe]

oh the joys of parenthood.

dd and I have had nits for a couple of weeks. We've been combing every other day and they were almost gone, but the other day dd went to play with a neighbour and now they're back with a vengeance. I'm pretty sure she's re-caught them from this neighbour.

do I:

a) keep combing, make excuses when neighbour wants to come and play for a few weeks and forget about it
b) tell neighbour that her dd has nits
c) pretend to have recently discovered the nits and tell neighbour that dd has them in order to warn her that her dd "might" have them
d) sleep with my head in a bucket of cold water for a week
e) shave everybody's head.

also why do dh and ds not have the bastard things, and what's that stuff I've seen advertised that gets rid of them but isn't insecticide? they don't seem to sell it in spain.

and do people really still think that nits are a sign of scummines? dh and my mum think so.

the stuff you want is hedrin... try googling it.... supplement with regular combing for double barrelled treatment...

DDT?

No idea of the name, sorry. I would chose option C, especially if she has just come from neighbours' house.

if people think it's a sign of scumminess then they'll be the ones not checking so infesting everyone else. hedrin is great but oily, stick it on at night and wash off in the morning.

i'd tell them btw it's the fairest thing to do.

I don't know about the scuminess, however, I found it gross that the first message we got about being on our ward in case he got them came from his new private school!

guard not ward Chandra!!!

chandra you have spanish relatives don't you? how would they react?

I don't think I'd hesitate to tell a neighbour in england, but the spanish just seem so much more, well, groomed . I can't help thinking people are more likely to be funny about it here.

I do know they like posh hair just as much as they like normal hair though

My MIL would confess she had attempted on the king's life before accepting someone on her family had nits , but I was planning to ring some friends tonight, she is a teacher so I will ask!

I don't know how are your neighbours but I think that Spanish people tend to be more direct so as long as you don't say "your child has passed her nits to my DD" you should be fine.

What about ring her and saying something like you have just found nits on your DD and would she know of a product to get rid of them? (that question will make her check her child but at the same time she will know that it's the first time your DD has got them. Would that help?)

Sorry, she didn't know but she says that if you go to any pharmacy they would recommend one, hope that helps

I did go to a chemists and they gave me this foam stuff that didn't get them all.

but good point about the spanish being more direct. come to think of it I don't think I've ever offended a spanish person (maybe because I'm the weirdo foreigner though!). I will mention it. to the teacher as well. it's hard though. I amnear fluent in spanish but the bit that's missing is the ability to use and understand all those subtle nuances of meaning that you need in this kind of situation, if you see what I mean. I usually try and make a joke of it, but people just seem to think I'm weird.