I think there is a massive mental adjustment to be made following the diagnosis, but I know I haven't made it.
I was 44 too when diagnosed. My children were 8 & 10. One day it just all got to me and they found me sobbing uncontrollably in the kitchen. I was thinking that I would not be able to see them as adults, except for vague glimpses out of the corner of my eye.
Then, miraculously, the lucentis stopped the leaking! Mostly I do my best not to think about it because the idea of going blind was suffocating. I couldn't imagine coping with it, and to be honest I was so upset, I didn't really want to try.
I felt completely alone though. So, although I wish it had happened to none of us, it is sort of soothing to not feel uniquely unlucky. (I hope that doesn't read badly.)
Mine was caused by shortsightedness, or at least the same eye size and shape that causes shortsightedness. I've had glasses since I was 11. My prescription is around 4.5x. Is that the same for everyone else?