Bad memory in a 25yo?

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Dh and I have just had another row because he doesn't ever listen to me.

Apparently he does listen, it's just he forgets.
Apparently all of his work colleagues are sick of him too as he forgets things they've said too.
He said it annoys him that he forgets all the time.

It's always recent things, not anything from months or years ago. Can even be within 30 seconds ie
him: where did you put that card?
Me: in the kitchen drawer
Him: ok thanks.
30 seconds later
Him:where's that card?
Me: I've already said, in the drawer.
Him:oh yeah, sorry.
30 seconds later.
Him:did you say that card was in the kitchen drawer?
Me: yes. Twice.
Him: oh yeah, sorry, got it now. Thanks.

It's driving me insane. I've really expressed how shit it is to feel like I'm not being listened to and have to repeat myself all the time because he can't be bothered to listen. He's adamant he listens, but forgets.
And it's not like I'm sitting there rambling about nothing and he gets bored and stops listening, he'll ask me a question so knows to expect me to talk and forget my answer.

Any ideas what it could be? Or is he actually not listening?

He's 25, healthy, no health issues whatsoever. I've suggested going to the GP but he said it seems dramatic.

Thanks.

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I got my th a t shirt which says - my wife says I don't listen to her or something like that. He is notorious for not rememberin stuff. However in his case I know it is asking a question& not listening to the answer. Or out of site out of mind - can only focus on one thing at a time.
If you are really sure it is none of the above I think GP would be the way to go.

Thanks for replying
He's adamant he listens. But that he forgets. He reckons he's as wound up about himself than I am. So, giving him the benefit of the doubt, I'm trying to help him.

I had a colleague at work who did exactly the same. Just got really really forgetful, he had some tests, was told to try and reduce stress in his life and it improved.

If he's genuinely listening and forgets, he's got poor working memory. People with dyslexia or ADHD often have a poor working memory.

Well, in that example, he didn't have to remember, because you kept remembering for him. Memory gets better when you practice using it.

I would test him. Are you old enough to have watched Allo Allo? Listen carefully, I will say this only once? Just answer, same place as I said before. If he gets better at it, you know he just needed to practice.

Alternatively, is he a connoisseur of mind-altering substances?

Yes could also be stress or sleep related. Could even be boredom related though

Look up "auditory processing disorder", OP. Does his behaviour 'fit'?

Look up "auditory processing disorder", OP. Does his behaviour 'fit'?

Thanks everyone! On app so can't see names and might forget bits.

I don't think he's stressed. But can't be sure. Will ask him tomorrow how he feels and if he thinks he is.
Sleep - he gets about 6.5hours a night, I mentioned to him earlier that i didn't think that was enough but he reckons it is. (I then said that if his shitty memory is bothering us both that much then he should try to get more sleep to see if there's a change.)
Auditory processing disorder doesn't seem to fit.
I don't know if he's bored? Again will ask him. We have an 8 month old so shouldn't be bored but everyday is probably a bit samey for him.
Good point about him not needing to remember as I just say it again. I will have to start trying to force him to remember.

I've been reading online that it could be anxiety or depression too. It's really hard to know what it could be.

Oh.. no to drugs/drink/smoking.
And not old enough for Allo Allo!

Adhd/dyslexia - don't know much about these, will google.

As a person with a terrible memory which only seems to be getting worse, I also second stress - I started a new job a year ago which needs me to be in a different place every half day of the week. Why on earth I applied for it I do NOT know. It's a lot of fun but I live and die by my outlook calendar with spiralling lists of reminders, and my to-do list. It may be that his memory is pretty shit but still normal, in which case he needs to accept that and get organised.

I wouldn't 'force him to remember' exactly I just would stop remembering for him... it's up to him how he organises himself once he realises that he needs to.

I would experiment too to see if he's just not engaging enough when you talk. Explain you will try just saying things once and then kindly not keep repeating them. If he asks a question a second time, lie and tell him 'I don't know sorry'

An alternative is to request that he has eye contact when discussing stuff. Then to request that he repeats things back to you so that you can be sure he was listening.