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Coping with long term illness - How!!!??

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Slippersmum · 03/03/2015 18:10

I have been ill for around 18 months. Initially I was very ill and was in hospital and they thought I may die. I have been told if it comes back it will probably kill me. My problem is I am getting so down with my empty life. I can't work. I started volunteering but began to feel to unwell to carry on so had to cut right down. Somedays I wonder what the point of carrying on is and if it wasn't for my children, well. I work really hard at staying cheerful and don't really talk about it and to be honest most of those close to me have struggled with the concept of not getting better and I think they are relieved I don't talk about it! People keep saying well you were better than you were, which I am but my life is still a million miles from where it was. I lost a great career that I will never be able to return to and I feel lost. I am sorry this post is so rambling. I just wondered how do people cope when they are ill for a long time. I try and look at all I have rather than all I have lost but sometimes it's hard and today is one of those times. Thanks.

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notMrsRobinson · 03/03/2015 21:26

Oh slipper I don't have any experiences to offer but just wanted to say that there is so much on your message that is positive. How wonderful that you want to volunteer, there must be some way you can use your skills? Anything related to your previous career that won't be too exhausting? So sorry you're feeling down. With all the focus on physical needs I suppose the emotional aspect of recovery can be neglected Flowers

Slippersmum · 04/03/2015 20:02

Thanks for taking the time to reply. I am glad some positivity comes through. Even on a bad day!

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MatildaTheCat · 04/03/2015 20:16

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It's not the same but I have injured my back badly and it will never get better so I face the rest of my life in quite severe pain. It's debilitating and exhausting. I've also lost my career. If you would care to join us on the Back Pain thread you would be most welcome even if it isn't exactly your problem. We all understand the sadness, frustration and daily difficulties that chronic illness or pain bring along. All I can say is that it is still possible to enjoy life most of the time and learn to adapt to the new life you never asked for or wanted.

Please feel free to pm if you want to chat. Sorry it's not quite what you were looking for.

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