Sex after having a child - how did it change?

[HungryDam]

I've NC'd for this as it's embarrassing. I had DS just over 2 years ago (vaginal birth, episiotomy, second degree tear). Sorry to be explicit but my vagina just feels too wide. It's like I can't feel DH inside me like I used to. Is this normal?

Hi, are you doing your pelvic floors? There a must!! I tried to do five lots of twenty a day and it really did help. You may be feeling paranoid to has your dh said anything?

He hasn't said anything but I can feel it. I don't think it's me being paranoid though - as I can't feel almost anything at all.

I though the pelvic exercises were for the first couple of months only? It's been 2 years!

I also had vaginal birth, episiotomy etc. and I think you need to get back into the swing of it, as sex is exercise for the vagina, am sure it helps getting everything back to normal, tightening everything up hopefully not TMI! (as long as your not experiencing pain IYSWIM)

My daughter is 12 and I still do them now! I remember I was the same for a while after the birth and her lovely father told me so at the time( we split up when she was 1) but I think it sorted it's self out after a while. Would u consider telling your GP?

Sorry cross post didn't realise this had been going on for two years...

Thank you to you both :)

I would consider telling GP if there's anything they can do?

What's sex?

I'm not really sure, but it's worth a shot if your worring about it! Think it's quite normal tbh and they probly get lots of women with this problem. I had 30 stitches when I had my daughter I was a mess, but it gets lots better with time. Is this your first baby?

Sex? What's that?! One of the few times we've had it since DD was born 15 months ago DC2 was conceived (now 21 weeks pregnant).

Seriously though pelvic floors aren't just an 'immediately after birth' thing. I'm still a bit obsessive about mine. It takes a while to get back into the swing of things. I was petrified of sex for after DD was born as I was convinced I had a prolapse. I didn't, it's just that things naturally felt a bit different for a while.

See your GP if you're worried and they can check everything healed properly. And do your pelvic floors

Yes it's my 1st but it's been two years since we had him!

Pelvic floor exercises are for life. Sorry.

Ok , so did you only do pelvic floors for a couple of months? Who told you not to keep doing them? There important and more kids you have more you have to do I think op.

Don't worry though cause even if you start doing them now , u will notice

I was ok after dc1 but dc2 was fucking huge . Pelvic floor forever sister ! There is no way my vagina could survive a 9.5lb sadly

So dont give up , and see the docs

And do them , in fact thanks for reminding me

I now understand elective c sections