'Mum is a very anxious lady...

[emkana]

... who has e/mailed me repeatedly.' it said in the referral letter the consultant has written about my ds. Thanks for that, I thought, when I was sneaking a look at ds's file while having him checked out yet again for his chest infection at the hospital.

I'm supposed to see the consultant in 10 days' time, I wonder if she'll tell me off....

Better anxious than not giving a damn. Don't worry about it. I hope ds is alright.

My ds was referred to an orthodentist re possible braces but his teeth look ok to me so I told him I didn't think we all had to be bloody clones like in the states(PMT)I noticed that he had written cranky mother with her son AGAIN on his notes!They are bloody cheeky They won't tell you off but before you get htere they will probably say that loony is in today

Yeah, because usually most mothers are so extremely laid back when dealing with their children's health problems.

Although, thinking about it some more maybe he/she was meaning that you should be given extra consideration and staff should make sure they explain everything very thoroughly to you....?

Hmmm.

Patronising git.

Loathe people who refer to me as 'mum'.

Ooooh

I looked at ds1's notes in the SCBU once. They had written "Mum was a very 'difficult' antenatal patient". I had been in for six weeks with pre-eclampsia, insulin dependent gestational diabetes and severe SPD ( wheelchair bound from 16 weeks). I was livid!!

If it ever happened to me again, I would complain. I don't like the idea of his medical records containing personal criticism of his mother which are in no way relevant to his health.

You'd be a pretty odd mum if you weren't anxious, emkana, after everything you've been through.

Em this really winds me up

I have dd's medical records and there's a letter in there to my GP describing me as 'tired and over anxious' and basically dismissing my worries about dd. It was typed on the day she had her second heart attack (they missed this first despite her having it on the ward).

oh FFS

patronising git.

Cheeky f**ker... The medical profession just make me soooooooo cross sometimes - they're so effing patronising.

Good for you for e-mailing repeatedly - and keep doing it because sometimes it's the only way to get anything done in the NHS. Grrrr....

Well you are anxious aren't you and with very good reason

anx·ious (ăngk'shəs, ăng'shəs)
adj.

1. Uneasy and apprehensive about an uncertain event or matter; worried.
2. Attended with, showing, or causing anxiety: spent an anxious night waiting for the test results.
3. Usage Problem. Eagerly or earnestly desirous.

[From Latin ānxius, from angere, to torment.]

PS started a thread this morning to find out how little one was .. did you start the anti-bs? is he breathing better?

this reminded me - ages ago I had an appt with someone from the LEA and sneaked a peek at dd2's file - the woman I was dealing with had written: 'Dd2 attends Little Treasures Day Nursery (how can anyone send their child to a nursery with such a sickly name???) '

god that pisses me RIGHT off on your behalf emkana.
anxious?!?!?!?!?!?!
what a twat, sorry.

They charge for COPYING your file, but you are entitled to SEE it for free.
They are allowed to remove anything which you might find distressing but they have to tell you they have removed it.

I dislike the patronising medical profession too! Have seen to much of them over the last few years and not being taken seriously is one of the worst things to happen.

emkana - I have been labelled in similar terms to you.

I like to think of it as medical jargon for:

"This is actually a very clued-up parent, who won't be fobbed off. She is clearly determined to do the best for her child, and equally determined to make sure we all do too! Do not just give her child a nice sticker and put his/her file to the bottom of the pile, or she'll be back on the phone/sending emails to find out why."

Think of it as being like a badge of honour - it's one way to stop you thinking about punching the doctor on the nose!

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twig - I didn't see the thread you started until just now, have answered there!

Reading what the consultant had written made me laugh really. Put me in the mood to write another e/mail really, just can't think of anything to write atm! "anxious" - because I show concern for my son's health and wellbeing? And want as much information as possible?

Funny thing is I have e/mailed the radiologist she wrote that too as well! He hasn't replied though... probably because he had been warned!

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do you NOT think youa re anxious ek?
you are in a way surely as you haev had so many concernsa btou ds.
it doens thve to be a bad hting does it?

i hate the infantalisation that seems par for the course in terms of how the public is treated by the medical profession.

i would ask to see all ds's notes.

i guess the ideal 'mum' would be passive, obedient and unquestioning. like the ideal wife would be i guess.

cod, it didn't say 'emkana is understandably anxious' or 'emkana is anxious'

it said 'mum' (argh, depersonalise me why don't you) is anxious' followed by a comment about how many times emkana has emailed.

i don't think there is any way of reading it other than as a warning for other physicians that emkana is slightly bothersome.

notes should be written as if the patient and mother are reading them: respectful at all times.

it's totally crap imo.