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DH has found a lump...

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wangle99 · 19/10/2006 13:20

DH has found a small lump in his testicle and is petrified. He has a doctors appointment next Wednesday but due to abuse issues from his past he is unsure if he is actually going to be able to be examined when he gets there.

To top it off we are having relationship issues which is another whole story...

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Mell2tingPotofGooooooo · 19/10/2006 13:24

oh wangle, will you be going in with him? Wednesday seems a long way off to be worrying.
Sending you both good wishes xxxxxxxx

Marina · 19/10/2006 13:25

Blimey wangle99, I am sorry.
He should ask at the surgery now for a chaperone - they are available to anyone who doesn't wish to be examined on their own. I see no reason on earth why that shouldn't apply to men as well as women.
Do the problems you are currently having mean you cannot face going with him? That would be a logical solution normally.
Lots of lumps on testicles are benign and I really hope he gets that news. The important thing is that despite his real fears he's made that appointment.
Good luck and keep us posted.

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wangle99 · 19/10/2006 13:27

I can go with him but I think he'd possibly rather be on his own. The appt is with a female doctor which of course as he asked for her he thinks they'll think he's a pervert!

I am so hoping it is nothing because I don't think I can deal with that and everything else. He is nearly 33 and I read that most testicular cancer is between 21 and 34 in men. We have our family they can remove the lot it doesn't matter!

Trying to think positively about it.

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tribpot · 19/10/2006 13:31

My dbro had a lump, it took a few scans but it was completely harmless and he's fine now. The chances are your dh will be the same, fingers crossed for you.

The doctor will be sympathetic if he explains the issue - he could do so beforehand, by letter if that would make it easier?

BearintheBigBlueHouse · 19/10/2006 14:10

A small lump is less likely to be TC and more likely to be a benign cyst.

I know how worrying it all is - I've been there and as a bloke actually getting off your fat ass and going to get checked in the first place is hard enough without the extra "someone will be handling my family jewels" worries, and the other issues you mention. But the thing that really matters and gets you there is that you're the father of your kids and you would rather gets anything-that-needs-checked-and-dealt-with checked and dealt with now rather than risk the chance (small though it is) of no longer being there for them.

First scare I had a female Dr (a locum whose name I didn't recognise and so didn't know was a woman, and one who looked like Sherilyn Fenn at that, until I walked into her room), second time round and it was the father of one of DS's nursery friends who I'm on "Good Morning" terms with but have not yet had to face down a birthday party or playdate invite, thank goodness.

Keep thinking positively and you can tell him from me he can do the same. Good on him for getting checked (and you, if you bullied him into it) as a lot of blokes don't actually do so until their 'nads are the size of a grapefruit and that's not exactly timely...

BethAndHerBrood · 19/10/2006 14:13

My DH had a lump. It was a twisted vein (or something like it). Didn't have any implications, he could have had an op, but it wouldn't stop it recurring, so he didn't have it. He's fine, might have affected his fertility, but seen as we've just had baby no.3, I don't think it did!!!

Crackle · 19/10/2006 14:16

Whereabouts is the lump? My dh's was up near where the um, er, tubes go back into the body. Very common and benign problem but very worrying. Had a definate ache to it that went after a few weeks.

Mellowma · 19/10/2006 15:13

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Blandmum · 19/10/2006 15:18

Good on him for going to see the doctor asap. This is the right thing to do.

Most lumps are nothing, many a caused by fluid build up.

Some are cancerous, but testicular cancer in the most treatable of all cancers. It has a 95% survival rate if caught soon enough. My dh had it 13 years ago and it totaly free of the disease. He needed an op, and some chemo, but it is all in perfect working order, and we concieved oth out children naturally.

They will have a feel of the etsticle and if necessary, refer him for a scan. At that point further tests may be done etc.

Don't panic, even the worst case in this situation isn't that bad, honest!

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wangle99 · 19/10/2006 21:24

Thank you everyone.

He isn't talking about it and I am not mentioning it. He did thank me for making the appointment though. I know next week will be hard as he will be worried (obviously).

At least by going we will know what it is and what it isn't!

I'm reassured to hear that TC is very treatable, obviously I'd rather it wasn't that but if it is we'll deal with it...

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Tillyboo · 19/10/2006 21:57

Your dh MUST go and get it checked out. In most cases it's nothing to worry about but best to rule out anything sinister. Cysts are pretty common.
My dbrother had testicular cancer about 7 years ago aged 29. He went through a very difficult time with intense chemo etc.. He had a terrible infection too which complicated things but because he caught it early, made a full recovery and fathered a darling little boy 2.5yrs ago after being told it was unlikely.
Early detection is key. Wishing you lots of luck !

hub2dee · 19/10/2006 23:16

LOL @ Bear's schoolgate acquaintance having had 'hands on' with the Jewels.

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