Ds been called for surgery on 10th Nov and i'm scared.

[longwaytogo]

Ds was diagnosed with Hypospadias at birth and at six weeks were told her would be operated on before age 1.

Have had letter this am to say he going in on 10th Nov, he is now 2.7 yrs. Would have been so much easier before 1 now how do I explain to him?

Sat here crying, can hardly keep myself together atm let alone be strong for him.

can't bring myself to read leaflet.

Would have thought we would have had an appointment with consultant to discuss how long he's going to be etc. I not a clue whats happening, jsut said he will be in at least one night, at six weeks we were told he would be catheterised after op. Don't know what to do. Falling apart.

Oh gosh, what a worry...
Is there a phone number on the letter so you can ring the department/consultant? They should be able to answer any questions you have and put your fears to rest.

Do they not want to see your ds before surgery to look at his condition and plan the op?

If you get no joy from the hospital, at least go and see your gp, they should be able to give you more information of what is involved...

Sorry I can't be of any more help...

When ds1 had a MRI scan they had a lady who was like a play co-ordinator and showed us and ds what was going to happen.
When he has operations for squints he always attended hospital a few days before and was shown around the ward.
I would second the idea of ringing the hospital,to see if you can talk to someone about what will happen.

It says pre addmission app is on and then there is blank, but other letter says he will come to pre admission and from there to the ward. The consultant doing the op hasn't seen him, fgs this is a childrens hospital.

When do I tell him he is going to have this done?

My ds had this operation. He stayed in two nights and had a cathether for a week after.
The cathether was taken out on a day ward.

Ask for a stong sedative when the catheter is removed and arrive early to give it as much time as possible to work.

If he is potty trained put him in some large pants, if in nappies use larger size to avoid chaffing.

Hope it goes well.

Ring hospital with any concerns, we found our consulatnt very helpful.

Longwaytogo, 2 of my sons were born with hypospadias and one has had the op, the other is due it next year. Would you like to talk privately about it? You can email me or msn me on [email protected] if you want to.

I am online now for the next half an hour if you want to chat.

Have rung hospital urology nurse not in till Oct 30th spoke to staff on ward who said pre assesment clinic only once a month. Someone is supposedly ringing me on Mon/Tues so will see what happens, I have rung to confirm that he is going for it so will just have to hope that this is the normal way they do it, so I guess the first time the surgeon will see him is on the operating table

LWTG, good on you for ringing up and questioning what was going on. I still don't think it is right for the surgeon not to see your son before the operation. Still, if that is how it is, what can you do?

Anyway, just to let you know if you want to talk more about it, I am often online (msn).

How are you feeling otherwise today?

Can you ring the urology nurse on the 30th and say you want to speak to somebody before the op on 10th Nov? If you explain that it's 2 years since he was seen and that you have lots of questions I'm sure somebody could see you( or at least speak to you on the phone)? If no joy with the nurse then you can ask to be put through to the consultant's secretary.

The surgeon will have to see him on the ward beforehand to take consent and explain what the op involves. Your ds won't be allowed to leave the ward until the consent form is signed by you. There's no way they'll operate on a child they haven't seen beforehand.

Poor you - it sounds very stressful.I'd keep at them until you get some answers! Hope it all goes well for your ds.

Thanks starmash, I know that makes sense I take people to theatre all the time and know that he won't be taken unless consent is signed, think I just feel a bit overwhelmed, scared, guilty.